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The Long-Short Way, And The Short-Long Way

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

Some things may seem to take longer at first, but end up making things easier and faster. Other things seem easier or faster in the short term, but end up taking more time in the long run. This applies to projects, group agreements about process, relationships, addressing conflicts, clearing up misunderstandings, damage control, etc. It can be faster to slow down, be more present, and take the time since we care about the outcome.


NVC Life Hacks 29: Inner Conflict

Video • 10 minutes • 8/8/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Video
10 minutes
8/8/2022

How often do you find yourself stuck between two options? Do you go with option A or option B and what if it's a complicated decision that involves more than just a quick thought process? In this Life Hack we guide you through a process you can use when facing a difficult decision with a simple 5 step process, this meditation should leave you feeling more at peace and with more clarity on moving forward.

This meditation also brings in elements of brainstorming and ideation, so as well as reflecting on your needs, once the process is finished we hope you find some fresh ideas of ways to move forward.


Alarm Feelings: Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/14/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
07/14/2022

Anger, guilt, shame, and shutdown are often based on reactivity and “should” thinking. They narrow and distort perceptions, which can bring more suffering. So instead, feel them without resistance, nor acting on them. Bring clarity by naming your observables and thoughts, plus your underlying vulnerable feelings, needs and self-responsibility. Then mourn what needs were, or are, unmet. Only then choose what actions to meet needs.


Sometimes I Can’t Get Past My Judgments

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/28/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/28/2022

Trainer Tip: Whether we listen to our own or the other person’s needs first, connecting to needs can help us release judgments of others, see their humanness, help us to begin to hear them and ultimately connect to them. Be aware today of times when you are judging someone. Then be aware of your own needs to improve your connection to them.


Somatic Practices for Embodying NVC

Video • 9 minutes • 8/3/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
9 minutes
8/3/2020

How do you build new learning paths and change old practices? Listen as David presents the elements of somatic practice — including those that build new learning paths — and discover where that learning “sweet spot” is!


From Personal to Global Trauma: The Through-Line

Article • 6-9 minutes • 07/14/2022
All Skill Levels
Article
6-9 minutes
07/14/2022

Our everyday personal experiences of diminishment, and the destruction of our planet has a through-line. Societal traumas lead to us shutting down to avoid pain, and this limits us. The avoidance shifts our brains so we don’t see other beings, species and our planet as wondrous, precious and irreplaceable. Thus, we meet others with diminishment, oblivion, or abuse; trauma keeps passing on. This leads to being blind and mute, and to othering based on social location, and to destruction of our planet.


The Highest Leverage For Effective Meetings

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

The highest leverage point for effective meetings is preparing with self inquiry. Before saying something, we can ask ourselves about who this is serving, what needs it serves to say it, if there is a request we want to make, how to make the request actionable, and more. If more people at meetings do this, it can reduce the overall number of tangents we experience at meetings.


The Spiritual Path of NVC (2 Session Course)

Audio • 2 hours, 10 minutes • 7/29/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
2 hours, 10 minutes
7/29/2022

Are you a spiritual seeker who longs for an approach that supports compassion for self as well as profound spiritual transformation? If so, you’ll enjoy this telecourse recording with Robert Gonzales and Leo Sofer as they engage in dynamic discussions about NVC as a spiritual practice.


Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/27/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/27/2022

Trainer Tip: Thinking someone is bad, wrong, or evil can make it more difficult to connect with them. If we focus on this kind of thinking, we stay in the problem or conflict. The minute we step out of judgement and listen for the needs underlying their actions, we begin working for the solution. Put your focus in the direction of the result you want. Read on for an example.


Responding to a Painful Comment

Video • 44 minutes • 7/25/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Video
44 minutes
7/25/2022

How do you carry on a conversation when someone’s comment has had an impact on you? And what happens when two intentions clash because of different perspectives? Here’s Roxy’s powerful, common sense approach.


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