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Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/29/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
1/29/2022

Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that your needs “have to” be met.


Integrating Inner And Outer

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes • 1/17/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes
1/17/2022

This exercise brings forth presence, awareness, and witnessing regarding what you observe. And also the inner form of experiencing: thinking, feeling, sensing, longing, and noticing any inner resistance. This exercise is designed to allow self-compassion to clear the inner space, and to help you feel it as a flow of energy, presence to the other, and bring in a more relaxed experience and more availability to vulnerability.


Exercises For Transforming Rebellion

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes • 1/17/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes
1/17/2022

In these exercises, you'll transform your urge to rebel with punishment or reward. Punishing can include withholding love or other necessities, attacking verbally with insults or name calling (directly or with others), giving a "dirty look," or attacking physically. With these exercises you'll allow space for your urge. You'll also explore needs, benefits, consequences, and lternatives.


Exercise On Self Responsibility

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/17/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
1/17/2022

Self responsibility is owning what's yours. It involves identifying your observations, evaluations, feelings, longings, and more. When we identify what's truly ours we are unlikely to mistake it as coming from outside of us. Self responsibility is not self blame. Without self responsibility, we project, blame and judge. Self-responsibility is central to clarity and full self-awareness. This exercise will guide you there.


NVC Life Hacks 18: How to Give Quick Feedback

Video • 4 minutes • 08/29/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Video
4 minutes
08/29/2019

Giving feedback can be a difficult task, sometimes we try to avoid getting to the point and instead end up spending a long time attempting to communicate. We find there are mostly two types of feedback. The first focuses on what is wrong with the person's behaviour and tends to feel more judgemental whereas the second is values-based feedback, focusing on the needs of the people involved.


Practices For Requesting

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 1/17/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
1/17/2022

Practice making requests for feedback, clarity, and action. Opportunities for making requests might be when you expected something different from what you got, were treated undesirably, and noticed inner constriction or reactivity. Identify observations, feelings, and values to support finding the request. Ensure your request states what you want, is specific, names the present-tense action, and that you're open to feedback.


Inner Space And Compassion

Practice Exercise • 1- 2 minutes • 1/17/2022
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
1- 2 minutes
1/17/2022

Here's guidance on how to approach your inner experience when triggered or stuck in a distressing life experience. Self-Compassion in life can be experienced as: "There is room for life experience in me. There is an open space for ‘what is’ to be fully present in my inner experience". This exercise is more about tracing your felt experience than verbalizing it.


Miki Kashtan And Inbal Kashtan’s Additional NVC Key Differentiations

Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 12/30/2021
All Skill Levels
Article
10 - 15 minutes
12/30/2021

Here are 14 more key differentiations that are not, at time of publishing this, on the CNVC key differentiations list. They can be used to support people who are on the path of learning and integrating NVC in making sense of their own understanding of their journey and where they are within it. And it can be used to support people who share NVC with others in offering brief information in support of understanding and learning.


Reactions To Conflict Exercises

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/29/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
12/29/2021

With these exercises you can practice identifying the reactions to conflict, such as fight, flight, freeze, the posture taken, what you see, hear, smell, touch taste and what needs are at play. They will also bring in curiosity about what next step may help. One of these exercises prompts you to journal some of these things this week.


Vaccination and COVID-19: Restoring Togetherness

Video • 00:14 minutes • 2/5/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
00:14 minutes
2/5/2022

Struggling to navigate needs between the vaccinated and unvaccinated during the COVID-19 pandemic? How can we disagree and still understand each other? Listen in as a participant engages with Miki about her struggle to choreograph people's divergent needs around vaccines, and enjoy Miki's tip for reflecting back understanding when we disagree!


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