3 Steps to Reflect on When a Social Change Strategy is Not Working
3 Steps to Reflect on When a Social Change Strategy is Not Working
3 Steps to Reflect on When a Social Change Strategy is Not Working
Video
4min. 10sec.
1/27/2023
Certified CNVC Trainer Roxy Manning, Phd, shares three steps on how to reflect on what needs are being served when deciding to implement a strategy.
Empathy And Mindfulness With Inner Conversations Of Fear And Anxiety
Empathy And Mindfulness With Inner Conversations Of Fear And Anxiety
Empathy And Mindfulness With Inner Conversations Of Fear And Anxiety
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
1/25/2023
We can shift from being absorbed and identified with our inner chatter and feelings to being the space of awareness of these things. Observe your breath. Then observe your mind generating thoughts. Next, feel sensations of your body, particularly the difficult ones. Now, connect with the underlying energy of needs. Ask your unconscious mind for universal needs words related to what you now notice, think and feel.
Boundaries For Healthy Differentiation
Practice Exercise
6-9 minutes
2/4/2023
Differentiation means you can access both autonomy and intimacy in relationships. When you're unafraid to lose yourself or be controlled, you can feel deeply connected and affected, while standing strong in yourself. Differentiation also means ability to tolerate disharmony and differences, self-soothe, offer compassion, and set boundaries. Here, we'll focus on setting boundaries with monitoring eye contact and physical interaction, and interrupt our "helping".
Resistance
Article
6-9 minutes
1/25/2023
There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly, with empathy and care for the people doing the things we are resisting.
Safe spaces and confidentiality agreements
Video
4min. 7sec.
1/28/2023
Certified CNVC trainer Roxy Manning, Phd, answers a question: how to create a safe space for a first time group working on power and privileges ?
Building A Feelings Vocabulary
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
1/27/2023
Trainer Tip: Without knowing our feelings, its harder to live fully present, take care of ourselves, and make sound decisions. If its difficult for you to know what you feel and to express your feelings, consider reviewing a list of feelings, practice expanding your feelings vocabulary, and naming your feelings.
The Why And How Of Accessing Grief
Practice Exercise
5-8 minutes
1/25/2023
Grief is often confused with anguish. Anguish is a painful feeling that comes along with deep resistance to an experience or truth. Grief that leads to healing is an expansive state. It is a willingness to be with an experience and truth. If you're not resisting grief, then it's a neutral-to-pleasant experience. Pleasant sensations can include a sense of space and relief as something is integrated and tense holding releases.
Functional Empathy that Supports Connection and Efficiency
Functional Empathy that Supports Connection and Efficiency
Functional Empathy that Supports Connection and Efficiency
Video
1 min
2/1/2023
Have you ever been in a meeting where the agenda is full and someone gets triggered? Did you get stuck in an empathy spiral and a never ending meeting? Roxy Manning shares the difference between healing empathy functional empathy.
How to present "harm being done" in an NVC way
Video
1min. 19sec.
1/28/2023
Certified CNVC trainer Roxy Manning, Phd, answers a question: how do we use the term "harm" in NVC? Think of the word "harm" as an unmet need, practice observation to identify the need or needs that are not met.
NVC Life Hacks 35: Hearing a difficult message
Video
12 minutes
2/8/2023
Being put on the spot or confronted in an unexpected way can be an unpleasant experience to have. Even more so during lockdown when meetings are held on Zoom.
In Life Hack 35 we're exploring the feelings that come up from hearing a difficult message as well as ways you can respond. Esme recently had this experience and offered to record a one on one session with Gesine to explore the situation.