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Repair: Responding To A Lack Of Empathy

Practice Exercise • 4 -6 minutes • 05/25/2022
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
4 -6 minutes
05/25/2022

When someone stimulates your pain, you may want them to express care and empathy for your experience. If they're unwilling, you may resent it. You may forget the power of many strategies to meet a need, and you lose your agency. This can lead to reactive habits in you -- such as pleading, demanding, or attacking. Here are reasons you may not be getting an apology or empathy, and what options you have in moving forward.


What is Leadership?

Audio • 51 minutes • 6/21/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
51 minutes
6/21/2022

What specifically is leadership? And why do so many people step back from it? Listen in as Miki shares her experience and thoughts around changing the paradigm of leadership, as well as the role – and challenges – of using NVC when working for social change.


Empowering Ourselves Through Our Choices

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/14/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/14/2022

Trainer Tip: Today, when you tell yourself that you "have to" or "should" do something, notice what you feel and experience - is it a sense of duty, obligation, guilt, shame, overwhelm, constriction, heaviness? Then consider the underlying needs you are trying to meet with the activity. This can shift the purpose and intention with an energy that motivates our actions can bring empowerment and joy to our lives.


Acting with Courage and Imagination

Video • 11 minutes • 6/19/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Video
11 minutes
6/19/2022

In this snippet, Victor discusses acting with courage and imagination, and explores the dilemma of not acting because we fear we've not come up with the perfect intervention. Do we do more harm by waiting for the perfect inspiration instead of acting?


Moving Towards Life-Serving Responsibility in NVC

Article • 11 - 26 minutes • 02/24/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 - 26 minutes
02/24/2022

In the "obnoxious stage" we care for our needs in a way that doesn't respect others' needs. In the "emotional liberation" stage we fully care for others' needs as much as our own—while being free of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation. Often NVC training teaches us how to achieve the latter stage without the former. For greater compassion we can be more rigorous in how we talk about “responsibility", impacts and interdependence.


Dialogue in the Workplace (5 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 6/5/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
6/5/2022

 One of the key challenges of engaging in dialogue in the workplace is that – while we are all equally human – the norms of the workplace make honest and open dialogue challenging, especially when power differences are present. This course offers a plethora of considerations and tips designed to allow you to humanize your relationships at work, focus on your common goals, and bring more collaboration and goodwill to your team – and beyond.


The Importance of Anger

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 05/05/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
05/05/2022

Anger matters because it can let you know that you perceive a threat to universal need for yourself or someone else. It can draw your attention to something so that you can take effective action. Anger becomes a hindrance when you amp it up with your thoughts about what should(n't) happen. Instead, notice any "should" thoughts, see anger as a signal, accept that it's okay to have it, and look for feelings and needs underneath it.


How To Know If Someone Has Been Heard

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/14/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/14/2022

Trainer Tip: People tend to look, act, and sound softer when they have been more fully heard. If you're unsure whether someone has been heard and you want to be cautious, you may ask them, “Is there anything else you’d like me to hear?”. If you try to reason with or educate them before they're heard, they'll likely respond negatively. After they're heard, you may notice a willingness on their part to listen and proceed.


Implicit Bias and Own Race Bias (ORB)

Video • 12 minutes • 6/9/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Video
12 minutes
6/9/2022

Sarah Peyton explains implicit bias and own race bias (ORB), predispositions that slant our perceptions of ourselves and others. There's hope, these implicit biases can be overcome!


About Privilege...

Article • 8-12 minutes • 02/21/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8-12 minutes
02/21/2022

"Privilege" has many meanings, which can bring confusion. Here are questions essential to navigating challenges in NVC community about "privilege": How to call attention to times when language is used to divide and not connect? Where are people coming from when they say "privilege"? How to focus on using whatever language supports the depth of connection we seek with the heart of the people in front of us? Read on for more.


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