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NVC Life Hacks 27: Compassionate Parenting

Video • 4 minutes • 07/02/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
4 minutes
07/02/2020

When the pressure is on whether that's rushing out the door for the school run or getting them to bed on time, it's easy to leave all our best practices to one side. Luckily Nonviolent Communication gives us some useful tools to add to our metaphorical parenting tool belt and today we're sharing 6 tips to help bring out the compassionate parent in you.


10 Ways To Identify Your Needs

Practice Exercise • 3 -5 minutes • 05/05/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 -5 minutes
05/05/2022

To learn to identify and speak from your needs requires specific tasks and practices. Here's a list of 10 learning tasks and practices for you to choose from. Some of these ideas include using needs cards and lists, working backwards from strategies and ideal scenarios, reflecting on past experiences and relationships, and asking for/offering/exchanging empathy.


Don’t Assume You Know What Other People Need

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/05/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/05/2022

Trainer Tip: Sometimes when we look to fix someone's problems we think we're doing it to make them feel better, but in reality we are uncomfortable and we want to feel better. Instead of assuming you know what their problem is or what they need, listen deeply. Your listening presence can bring relief to the both of you and provide additional opportunities for healing. And along the way they may find their own way to a solution.


Create a Simple Restorative Agreement For Your Group

Video • 1 hour, 9 minutes • 6/2/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 9 minutes
6/2/2022

Conflict is normal and natural and yet we are still often surprised by it and unprepared to deal with it. You will come away from this session with the tools for creating simple agreements with your group about what to do when conflict arises.


From Blame To Power

Practice Exercise • 12 -18 minutes • 02/19/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
12 -18 minutes
02/19/2022
Blame is opaque when we don’t reflect on it deeply. We blame when we don’t see ourselves as having power to shape things, and see others as the ones who can. Blame and how we respond to it, is both a symptom of inability to step into power, and an impediment to empowered relationships. Transforming blame requires self-responsibility. Read on for practices involving empathy, inner connection, power, preparation and engaging options.

How To Interrupt Gossip

Practice Exercise • 3-5 minutes • 05/05/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3-5 minutes
05/05/2022

Reflect on a time when you were either expressing gossip or participating passively. What feelings and needs were up for you at the time? How might you have interrupted the gossip with connection? When interrupting gossip it can take a few rounds of empathy and honest expression to bridge understanding, and create a space in which mutual care and curiosity arises. Read on for an example.


Oh No, Not Again!

Video • 1 hour, 21 minutes • 5/27/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 21 minutes
5/27/2022

How many times do we fall into the same hole, hit the same wall, get entangled into the same patterns? There seem to be hidden forces within us that keep unconsciously leading us, again and again, into the same melody of our lives. In this session, we will try to see our life-journey as a whole and rehabilitate our capacity to be in this existence of ours more directly and fully.


NVC Life Hacks 26: Life-enriching education

Video • 4 minutes • 07/15/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
4 minutes
07/15/2020

A lot of us picked up new hobbies and learning new things during the COVID lockdown. After recently posting a puzzle on Facebook, Shantigarbha ended up being delightfully surprised at the conversation it began around NVC in relation to learning and education. Watch the video to hear our tips and click see more for the solution to the padlock puzzle below.

My solution to the padlock puzzle:

042 seems to conform to all five clues.

Is this also your understanding?


Universal Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 04/08/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
04/08/2022

Trainer Tip: Every human being has the same universal needs -- even as each person may choose different strategies to meet those needs. Notice the universal needs you share with other people today.


How To Understand Control

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 05/05/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
05/05/2022

When someone behaves in a way that you may label convincing, cajoling, guilt-tripping, threatening, analyzing, or criticizing, you may be tempted to guess they have a "need" for control. Instead, name what this person is doing that isn't meeting your needs. If it is a true need your heart will have softened. If you feel resentment or resistance, you are likely making a judgment rather than guessing what they are needing.


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