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From Domination to Partnership

Video • 1 hour, 15 minutes • 4/4/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 15 minutes
4/4/2022

How can we create a partnership and eye-level dialog with people who we perceive to have more power? In this session, we will create a practice of humanizing ourselves and others through empathy, practicing scary honesty, and making requests that serve both persons’ needs


NVC Life Hacks 21: Shame and the fear of doing it wrong

Video • 5 minutes • 07/09/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
07/09/2020

When was the last time you were in a situation with an overwhelming feeling of shame or an unnerving fear of 'doing it wrong'? Sometimes we get sweaty palms or a dry mouth, maybe we freeze on the spot or start an unhelpful internal monologue that makes the situation feel even worse. In this months NVC Life Hack Gesine takes a closer look at her own experience with shame and the fear of doing it wrong.


Celebrate Your Progress!

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/13/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/13/2022

Trainer Tip: Overwhelmed with all that you want to do? If so, what are you working to change? Is it a behavior or a consciousness? Where were you with this issue when you first decided to create change? And now where are you? Celebrating your progress can encourage you to keep trying. You wouldn’t expect to jump on a treadmill and jog three miles the first time. Don't have the same expectations for your emotional fitness either!


Unconditional Self-Acceptance: A Simple Daily Practice

Practice Exercise • 3 minutes • 4/1/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 minutes
4/1/2022

Here's a daily self-acceptance practice you can bring into your life whenever you are experiencing pain, tension, contraction, lack of fulfillment, or unmet needs or values. Giving your often undesired experiences space can be a path to greater inner connection and peace.


Working With Our Mixed “Yes”

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes • 1/29/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes
1/29/2022

For this exercise choose a situation in which you have said a “yes” to someone‛s request but you didn't experience your “yes” as given freely or joyfully. Then explore judgements, feelings, needs, and alternate strategies that come up in relation to your “yes”, your “no”, and in relation to what the other person might be experiencing.


Understanding Judgement And Criticism

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 02/11/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
02/11/2022

Judging or criticizing others indicates pain, unmet needs and a coping strategy. It distracts you from yourself and can give you the illusion of control. You may think you see more than they do, imagining criticism will bring change. But even a correct analysis won’t inspire change if they hear criticism. Instead, the moment you notice judgments or criticism turn towards yourself with compassion. What are your feelings and needs?


Letting Go of Resentments

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/13/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/13/2022

Trainer Tip: When we feel resentment toward others, we are harming our own emotional health. Surprisingly, when we own up to our part of an uncomfortable situation, we can release the pain and resentment. Such honesty can provide healing. Read on for a related anecdote of how this can play out.


NVC Life Hacks 20: How to Receive Feedback

Video • 2 minutes • 12/03/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Video
2 minutes
12/03/2019

We all know what it’s like to be on the end of feedback that we receive as clumsy, unbalanced or even spiteful. We don’t have any control over the skill level of people who give us feedback, or their motivations. So how do we receive feedback without taking it personally, in a way that we can learn from it?


Choice vs. Submission Or Rebellion

Trainer Tip • 1 -2 minutes • 1/29/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 -2 minutes
1/29/2022
When an entity or system has authority or power and mandates something we don't agree with we may submit or to rebel. If we submit, we give in or give up, often out of fear. If we rebel, we're in reactivity which may not help our cause, and reduce our power. This may result in others' resentment, anger, and pain. Gandhi and Martin Luther King didn't submit nor rebel. Instead, they were in choice and advocated for their cause.

How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably

Practice Exercise • 5 - 7 minutes • 02/11/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
5 - 7 minutes
02/11/2022

Sharing more vulnerably provides opportunities for fulfilling connection. As social beings we rely on feedback to see our effect on others. We can get that feedback through body language, facial cues and words. To expand your capacity to share more vulnerably you can create supportive conditions and timing. You can ask for feedback by making in-the-moment requests of others and yourself before and after you share.


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