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The Paradox Of Why

Article • 9-13 minutes • 07/14/2022
All Skill Levels
Article
9-13 minutes
07/14/2022

So often we're habituated to associate a “why” question with being reproached, blamed or shamed – and so defensiveness arises. However, in order to maintain a flow of understanding and collaboration, we need to hear and say the “why” while finding other ways to ask for it. Here we look at how to ask questions that bring each of us vital information that can open up discovery and learning, for our mutual benefit.


The Future of Love (6 Session Course)

Audio • 8 - 10 hours • 8/15/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
8 - 10 hours
8/15/2022

If you are tired of feeling dissatisfied, frustrated and hopeless about experiencing ease and joy in your intimate relationships, this course is for you! Please join CNVC Certified Trainer and long-time relationship expert, Kelly Bryson, in this course to rethink and relive your perception of love so you can actually feel love, let love in and be love.


Learning From Our Regrets

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/28/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/28/2022

Trainer Tip: When have you responded in a way you didn’t want? How could you have handled that situation differently? What would have better met your needs? Try not to judge your behavior, but learn from it. Each time we review our actions, we can learn something, become more adept at new skills, and come closer to our ideal. We can do this with the learning curve of practicing translating people’s words into feelings and needs.


The Long-Short Way, And The Short-Long Way

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

Some things may seem to take longer at first, but end up making things easier and faster. Other things seem easier or faster in the short term, but end up taking more time in the long run. This applies to projects, group agreements about process, relationships, addressing conflicts, clearing up misunderstandings, damage control, etc. It can be faster to slow down, be more present, and take the time since we care about the outcome.


NVC Life Hacks 29: Inner Conflict

Video • 10 minutes • 8/8/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Video
10 minutes
8/8/2022

How often do you find yourself stuck between two options? Do you go with option A or option B and what if it's a complicated decision that involves more than just a quick thought process? In this Life Hack we guide you through a process you can use when facing a difficult decision with a simple 5 step process, this meditation should leave you feeling more at peace and with more clarity on moving forward.

This meditation also brings in elements of brainstorming and ideation, so as well as reflecting on your needs, once the process is finished we hope you find some fresh ideas of ways to move forward.


Alarm Feelings: Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/14/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
07/14/2022

Anger, guilt, shame, and shutdown are often based on reactivity and “should” thinking. They narrow and distort perceptions, which can bring more suffering. So instead, feel them without resistance, nor acting on them. Bring clarity by naming your observables and thoughts, plus your underlying vulnerable feelings, needs and self-responsibility. Then mourn what needs were, or are, unmet. Only then choose what actions to meet needs.


Sometimes I Can’t Get Past My Judgments

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/28/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/28/2022

Trainer Tip: Whether we listen to our own or the other person’s needs first, connecting to needs can help us release judgments of others, see their humanness, help us to begin to hear them and ultimately connect to them. Be aware today of times when you are judging someone. Then be aware of your own needs to improve your connection to them.


Somatic Practices for Embodying NVC

Video • 9 minutes • 8/3/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
9 minutes
8/3/2020

How do you build new learning paths and change old practices? Listen as David presents the elements of somatic practice — including those that build new learning paths — and discover where that learning “sweet spot” is!


From Personal to Global Trauma: The Through-Line

Article • 6-9 minutes • 07/14/2022
All Skill Levels
Article
6-9 minutes
07/14/2022

Our everyday personal experiences of diminishment, and the destruction of our planet has a through-line. Societal traumas lead to us shutting down to avoid pain, and this limits us. The avoidance shifts our brains so we don’t see other beings, species and our planet as wondrous, precious and irreplaceable. Thus, we meet others with diminishment, oblivion, or abuse; trauma keeps passing on. This leads to being blind and mute, and to othering based on social location, and to destruction of our planet.


The Highest Leverage For Effective Meetings

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

The highest leverage point for effective meetings is preparing with self inquiry. Before saying something, we can ask ourselves about who this is serving, what needs it serves to say it, if there is a request we want to make, how to make the request actionable, and more. If more people at meetings do this, it can reduce the overall number of tangents we experience at meetings.


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