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Six Ways That Support You Being Heard

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/30/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes
12/30/2021

When you don't have a sense of being heard you can apply skills to help you can interrupt cycles of reactivity and resentment, and create connection. Let's look at six ways that will support you in being heard. These are clarity about the topic and needs; supportive conditions; respect for autonomy; sharing your intention; attending to emotional security; and making clear requests.


NVC Life Hacks 16: Recovering Perfectionist

Video • 5 minutes • 06/29/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
06/29/2019

Do you just keep going with a task, even if your body is screaming for a pause? Maybe you leave tasks incomplete because you can't finish them the way you want? Do you not even attempt some tasks because you know that you won't be able to do them perfectly? In short, are you a perfectionist? In this Life Hack, we look at 5 tips to help any recovering perfectionists.


Naturalizing NVC Language: Approaching a Difficult Conversation

Video • 3 minutes • 1/11/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
3 minutes
1/11/2022

How do you repair a relationship when you've already said things you regret, and want to reconnect with explaining or defending yourself? Listen as Miki Kashtan offers two valauble tips.


Guidelines And Suggestions For Empathy Buddy Calls

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes • 12/22/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes
12/22/2021

Here are 10 tips for empathy buddy practice. It includes a handout identifying 15 non-empathy responses to step aside from when you practice.


Understanding The Difference Between Life-Serving Boundaries And Threats

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 12/30/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
12/30/2021

When someone's behavior costs us, we may attempt to negotiate as much as possible. After some rounds of this, if there's no change we may reach a tolerance limit. So we may set a boundary for self care and clarity about what's unworkable. But depending on intentions and the way its said, this may or may not be a punishment to get even. Here, clarity about intentions, feelings, needs, actions and dialogue may support us.


I Want To Connect More Than I Want To Be Right

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/22/2021
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
12/22/2021

Trainer Tip: We have a better chance of getting our needs met if we prioritize connecting with one another's needs more than being right. This way we can reduce the chances of conflict arising. We also increase the possibility we can find ways everyone’s needs can be met.


Compassionate Connection: Nonviolent Communication with Children

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 12/2/2021
Introductory Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes
12/2/2021

Every interaction with children contains messages about who they are, who we are, and what life is like. By engaging attachment parenting and NVC we give them rare gifts in society: to know their parents well, to discover the effects of their actions without being blamed for them, and to experience the power of contributing to meeting others' needs, and the power to move towards mutually satisfying outcomes.


NVC Life Hacks 15: Scary Honesty

Video • 4 minutes • 05/22/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Video
4 minutes
05/22/2019

It's normal for us to keep something inside, avoiding sharing it with someone else as the risk may feel too high. Maybe they will reject me, or be offended and not speak to me again? It can be difficult to know when to share your truth and when to keep it inside. In this episode we layout some useful strategies that will help you speak your truth, while still keeping the connection.


Keys To Building Trust After Broken Agreements

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 12/2/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
12/2/2021

Building trust involves each person taking responsibility for what they want by identifying their needs, and making specific and doable requests that open a negotiation. Identify in what contexts you already have trust, what you want to be able to trust, and how you may be blocking or cultivating that trust. Making requests for specific actions of what to do differently can also help.


The Value of Change

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/4/2021
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
12/4/2021

Trainer Tip: Wanting collaboration? Show you value the other person's needs as much as your own. After you both feel heard, you can make joint decisions about specifics of the agreement, such as "division of work", "scope of project", "when the action will take place", "how it'll be done" and "timing of follow up to see how things went". Read on for an example of how this is applied to asking someone to pitch in with doing chores.


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