Articles (270)
Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities
Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities
Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities
with Roxy Manning
Article • 15 - 23 minutes • 05/2020
Advanced Skill Level
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15 - 23 minutes
05/2020
Article
15 - 23 minutes
05/2020
The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity…
Why Do I Feel Depressed?
with Rachelle Lamb
Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 04/2018
Beginner Skill Level
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7 - 11 minutes
04/2018
Article
7 - 11 minutes
04/2018
When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems? This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can…
Confronting with Care: An Approach that Builds Trust
Confronting with Care: An Approach that Builds Trust
Confronting with Care: An Approach that Builds Trust
with Martha Lasley
Article • 7 - 10 minutes • 11/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Article
7 - 10 minutes
11/2010
Article
7 - 10 minutes
11/2010
People find confrontation inspirational when done with full compassion and intention to support. To do this, transform your own judgments or distress, come with useful content plus spot-on timing, and the best interests of the receiver in mind. Read on for questions you can ask…
The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 16 - 24 minutes • 05/2019
All Skill Levels
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16 - 24 minutes
05/2019
Article
16 - 24 minutes
05/2019
We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of…
3 Simple Steps to Set The Boundaries You Need
with Erin Merrihew
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 07/2019
Beginner Skill Level
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3 - 5 minutes
07/2019
Article
3 - 5 minutes
07/2019
Resentment is one sign that you need a boundary. You can set a boundary by requesting the behavior that would be most meaningful to you. Include why that behavior would be meaningful to you and share vulnerably. Then notice if you are holding any blame…
How I Changed My Relationship to Time
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 1/2012
Intermediate Skill Level
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8 - 12 minutes
1/2012
Article
8 - 12 minutes
1/2012
What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above…
Does Anyone Deserve Anything?
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 13 - 20 minutes • 05/2013
Beginner Skill Level
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13 - 20 minutes
05/2013
Article
13 - 20 minutes
05/2013
Our world trains us to think in terms of providing for everyone’s needs because they deserve it, earned it, or they possess the resources -- it's fair, socially just, supports equality or because people have rights. Instead, can we step outside this worldview to look…
Angry and Taken Advantage of
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 4-6 minutes • 6/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
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4-6 minutes
6/2018
Article
4-6 minutes
6/2018
Finding your power in seemingly powerless situations doesn't mean denying what happened, your feelings, your needs, nor the behavior of others that didn't meet needs. It does mean reexamining those situations with the intention to compassionately look for your contribution and for clues to your…
Unpacking OFNR - Requests
with Roxy Manning
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 11/2020
Intermediate Skill Level
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5 - 8 minutes
11/2020
Article
5 - 8 minutes
11/2020
Many believe it's only a true NVC request when we can ask for what we need without urgency or insistence. But what if we're the target of oppression and hate in a world with systemic inequality? Is it still nonviolence to abdicate power by allowing…
Heartbreak For Self And The World Holding Our Broken Hearts With Compassion
Heartbreak For Self And The World Holding Our Broken Hearts With Compassion
Heartbreak For Self And The World Holding Our Broken Hearts With Compassion
with Sarah Peyton
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 02/2012
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
02/2012
Article
3 - 5 minutes
02/2012
When we're received with resonant understanding painful moments can lessen their charge and became part of the whole tapestry of life -- important but no longer able to hijack us into the eternal re-run of pain. When held this way, we can touch the memories…