Articles (270)
Untethering: An Always-On Project
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 7 - 10 minutes • 7/13/2022
Advanced Skill Level
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7 - 10 minutes
7/13/2022
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7 - 10 minutes
7/13/2022
Untethering from dominant culture and internalized oppression takes releasing attachments and persistence inspite upheavals -- all with insufficient support. Even in community building we can bring oppression into our efforts to untether. The more we walk towards vision, the more tethers of patriarchy we undo,…
Codependency: From Rescuer To Taker
with Eddie Zacapa
Article • 5 - 7 minutes • 11/7/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
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5 - 7 minutes
11/7/2022
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5 - 7 minutes
11/7/2022
Codependency occurs when others' behavior affects us in unhealthy ways and we get obsessed with controlling their behavior. For example, we may focus on other's needs while neglect what matters to us, and resent it. Or we may depend on others to rescue us from…
What Is An Observation In NVC?
with Rachelle Lamb
Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 11/16/2022
Introductory Skill Level
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10 - 15 minutes
11/16/2022
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10 - 15 minutes
11/16/2022
There's a growing trend to elevate feelings and personal truths (aka MY truth) to the point of being unassailable "facts". If I feel unsafe, then it must be because of you. As valid as a person’s inner world is, we risk overlooking what's beyond our…
The Challenge Of Connecting Dots
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 1/19/2023
Advanced Skill Level
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10 - 15 minutes
1/19/2023
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10 - 15 minutes
1/19/2023
The word "privilege" signifies the benefit to the person having it, and the relationship between that person’s benefit and others' lack of benefit. When privileged, there are incentives to not see this interdependent link. For instance, it's easier for the wealthy to think of the…
Patterns That Perpetuate Conflict - Part 1 of 2
with Bob Wentworth
Article • 6 -9 mins • 11/10/2022
All Skill Levels
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6 -9 mins
11/10/2022
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6 -9 mins
11/10/2022
To resolve conflict, information of what's important to each party, plus corrections, needs to be included and built upon. Here we explore nine patterns of ongoing conflict, including diagnosis; assuming understanding; refuting; unhelpful communication mediums; over focus on intent over effect; and “hit-and-run” engagement. This…
You’re Not A Bad Person: How Facing Privilege Can Be Liberating
You’re Not A Bad Person: How Facing Privilege Can Be Liberating
You’re Not A Bad Person: How Facing Privilege Can Be Liberating
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 17 - 25 minutes • 11/20/2022
All Skill Levels
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17 - 25 minutes
11/20/2022
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17 - 25 minutes
11/20/2022
When we have privilege, we can have access to resources resulting from legal or social norms related to membership in a group -- independent of any (in)action, awareness of the disparity, the potential benefits to us, or the costs to others. Unhelpful ways of engaging…
Unpacking Observations
with Roxy Manning
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 11/20/2022
All Skill Levels
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4 - 6 minutes
11/20/2022
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4 - 6 minutes
11/20/2022
Many people consider a true observation as something that all can agree on. Some people use the video camera analogy – a true observation is “what a video camera can see and hear.” This perpetuates the myth of the neutral, unbiased observer. There are three…
Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 16 - 24 minutes • 1/19/2023
Advanced Skill Level
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16 - 24 minutes
1/19/2023
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16 - 24 minutes
1/19/2023
Whether privileged or not, its not easy to see the humanity of others in different social locations, especially if their actions have unwanted impacts and have left behind our humanity. Aiming for “both sides hearing each other” empathically, and to focus on effect rather than…
Liberation For All: How We Can Talk Differently About Power And Privilege
Liberation For All: How We Can Talk Differently About Power And Privilege
Liberation For All: How We Can Talk Differently About Power And Privilege
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 22 - 31 minutes • 1/17/2023
Advanced Skill Level
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22 - 31 minutes
1/17/2023
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22 - 31 minutes
1/17/2023
Whether we have more or less power and privilege, anything without liberation for all is within patriarchal separation, and will continue cycles of oppression. To liberate ourselves and one another we need to increase our collective capacity through developing related knowledge, skills, research; build an…
Conflict Evolution Policy
with Jim Manske
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 1/29/2023
Advanced Skill Level
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4 - 6 minutes
1/29/2023
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4 - 6 minutes
1/29/2023
This document is for organizations that want to integrate NVC. The intention is to use conflict as a stimulus to personal growth, more open and honest relationships, and life-affirming change. It mentions using NVC skills such as self connection, empathy, honesty, and requests (and protective…