Articles (270)
The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication
The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication
The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication
with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 06/2017
Beginner Skill Level
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5 - 8 minutes
06/2017
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5 - 8 minutes
06/2017
We're more likely to sacrifice trust, connection, and relationship quality when (1.) We use NVC to focus on being seen, understood, heard, or meeting our own needs in a way that eclipses our view and understanding of others needs; (2.) We don't clearly examine our…
Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty
Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty
Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 5 - 7 minutes • 02/2020
Beginner Skill Level
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5 - 7 minutes
02/2020
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5 - 7 minutes
02/2020
Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and…
Connected Decision Making
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 2-3 minutes • 1/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
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2-3 minutes
1/2018
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2-3 minutes
1/2018
If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.
Connecting with Spiritual Clarity
with Jim Manske
Article • 2 - 3 minutes • 11/2019
Beginner Skill Level
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2 - 3 minutes
11/2019
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2 - 3 minutes
11/2019
We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality…
What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”
What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”
What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”
with Dian Killian
Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/2018
Beginner Skill Level
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6 - 9 minutes
12/2018
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6 - 9 minutes
12/2018
The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath…
Using an Anchor in Self-Empathy
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 4/2019
Beginner Skill Level
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5 - 8 minutes
4/2019
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5 - 8 minutes
4/2019
An anchor awakens parts of you that can access a bigger perspective. Also, it can reduce your reactivity, increase conscious relating, and support self-compassion. An anchor helps you get a little bit bigger than the reactivity you are experiencing so that you can access a…
Learning How to Listen
with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 01/2018
All Skill Levels
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3 - 5 minutes
01/2018
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3 - 5 minutes
01/2018
Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen.
Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures
with Dian Killian
Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 1/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
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12 - 18 minutes
1/2018
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12 - 18 minutes
1/2018
Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of…
Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 37 - 56 minutes • 05/2020
Intermediate Skill Level
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37 - 56 minutes
05/2020
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37 - 56 minutes
05/2020
What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the…
Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 14 - 21 minutes • 3/2019
Advanced Skill Level
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14 - 21 minutes
3/2019
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14 - 21 minutes
3/2019
In learning how to re-invent the economic system so that it distributes resources in a way that includes as many people's needs as possible, we would need to be in a process of mutual influence with one another. However, addressing resource distribution can be complex when…