Articles (270)
How to Invite Shared Vulnerability
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3-4 minutes • 8/2019
Beginner Skill Level
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3-4 minutes
8/2019
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3-4 minutes
8/2019
Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.
Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation
with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2020
Applied NVC
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4 - 6 minutes
01/2020
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4 - 6 minutes
01/2020
If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on…
Secure Differentiation
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 1/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
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4 - 6 minutes
1/2019
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4 - 6 minutes
1/2019
Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. If you're happier when you are…
Empathy vs. Investigation
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 4-6 minutes • 12/2018
Beginner Skill Level
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4-6 minutes
12/2018
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4-6 minutes
12/2018
To tell the difference between empathy and investigation, watch for distinctions along four different dimensions: energy, subject, intention and trust. These distinctions can help us engage awareness and skill to meet your needs and respond to others’ needs in more direct ways. The more you…
Transformative Dialogue
with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • N/A • 1/2010
Intermediate Skill Level
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N/A
1/2010
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1/2010
The less blame and criticism, the easier it is for others to hear us. From this perspective, it’s in our best interest to come from curiosity and care. This way differences can bring us together and help us know one another. The more mutual understanding,…
Inviting Depth in Conversation
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 6/2018
Beginner Skill Level
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3 - 5 minutes
6/2018
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3 - 5 minutes
6/2018
Conversation can become more satisfying with depth. Depth is occurs when connection unfolds towards a depth of intimacy, presence, attunement, sensing -- and silent attentive connection where another is attentively seen and heard. Inviting this level of sharing in conversation relies on at least three…
Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? - Part 2
Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? - Part 2
Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? - Part 2
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 18 - 27 minutes • 02/2020
All Skill Levels
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18 - 27 minutes
02/2020
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18 - 27 minutes
02/2020
We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks…
How I Continue to Mess Up Being an Ally
with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 06/2020
All Skill Levels
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5 - 8 minutes
06/2020
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5 - 8 minutes
06/2020
Working for racial justice is a shift in perspective—a shift in understanding and empathy that leads to a change in our actions: to listen instead of talk, to follow instead of lead, to yield rather than dominate. And to accept that I will continue to…
Laughter, IPNB and Empathy
with Sarah Peyton
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 10/2018
Beginner Skill Level
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3 - 5 minutes
10/2018
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3 - 5 minutes
10/2018
Sometimes even a very skilled empathy practicitioner can go into offering a non-empathic response, even when asked for empathy. Why? One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our brain and relationship with others. This article…
Expressing Our Pain Without Blame
with Miki Kashtan
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 08/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
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4 - 6 minutes
08/2011
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4 - 6 minutes
08/2011
The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy.…