Articles (270)
Moving Beyond Needs as Met or Unmet
with Peggy Smith
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 10/2019
Beginner Skill Level
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5 - 8 minutes
10/2019
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5 - 8 minutes
10/2019
Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to…
What is the Shadow?
with Eric Bowers
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2018
Beginner Skill Level
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4 - 6 minutes
01/2018
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4 - 6 minutes
01/2018
What parts of yourself or others are hard to embrace, understand or even notice? What parts do others have difficulty embracing, understanding or noticing? Why do we condemn, loathe, hate, deny, judge, blame or feel shame around certain needs, feelings and parts of self and/or…
Calling Out / Calling In
with Roxy Manning
Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 03/2019
Advanced Skill Level
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12 - 18 minutes
03/2019
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12 - 18 minutes
03/2019
When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much attention and compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much…
The Power of Authenticity + Care
with Roxy Manning
Article • 9 - 13 minutes • 04/2019
All Skill Levels
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9 - 13 minutes
04/2019
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9 - 13 minutes
04/2019
When we're on the receiving end of pain-stimulating assumptions, a microaggression, or prejudice --when we're reactive and resultingly have self-doubt, guilt or shame in ourselves-- is it possible to be intensely authentic while holding care for everyone in the situation? Can we effectively do this…
How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?
How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?
How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?
with Roxy Manning
Article • 23 - 34 minutes • 06/2020
All Skill Levels
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23 - 34 minutes
06/2020
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23 - 34 minutes
06/2020
Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure…
Creating an Internal Secure Base
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 9/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
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5 - 8 minutes
9/2018
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5 - 8 minutes
9/2018
We each hold an internal model or set of expectations about how caring and comfort could be accessed in relationship. The ability to reflect upon and challenge our own dominant model of perceptions, beliefs, and behaviors --and to experience discomfort and vulnerability-- is a key…
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 11/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
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5 - 8 minutes
11/2019
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5 - 8 minutes
11/2019
What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for…
Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom
Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom
Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom
with Inbal Kashtan
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2009
Beginner Skill Level
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4 - 6 minutes
01/2009
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4 - 6 minutes
01/2009
True inner freedom arises from self-connection. Without self-connection, we're mostly acting from habits, and those habits do not necessarily attend to our own needs. Here's a practice you can explore in your daily life to deepen your relationship with yourself, and experience true choice and…
How to Ask for Responsiveness
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3-5 minutes • 10/2019
Beginner Skill Level
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3-5 minutes
10/2019
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3-5 minutes
10/2019
If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more…
Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity
with Sarah Peyton
Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 10/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
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6 - 9 minutes
10/2015
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6 - 9 minutes
10/2015
There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to…