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Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Article • 4 - 6 minutes
Applied NVC
Article
4 - 6 minutes
If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your...

Love Trumps Everything

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When looking for a solution take the time to consider and connect to other's needs rather than just focusing on getting what you want. Such a basic shift in consciousness can make a profound difference in your relationships, both personal and professional. Notice how you feel afterward.

Calling Out / Calling In

Article • 12 - 18 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes
When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much attention and compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over...

Practicing Non-Reactivity

Article • 3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
For this practice assume that reactivity is arising any time you are distracted and not enjoying something. Practice throughout the day by focusing your attention for a few moments on something specific that you find pleasing. Notice the sensation of joy or pleasure in your body, and hold attention there longer than usual. This interrupts tension and contraction. Keep remembering to do this....

Stoking the Fires of Joy: Living with Gratitude (6 Session Course)

Audio • 5 hours, 26 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
5 hours, 26 minutes
Bask in this telecourse recording with Kathleen Macferran and explore ways to nurture and maintain greater depths of joy by focusing on gratitude. The reward? To increase your ability to live fully present to the joy in life, even in the midst of pain. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 2)

Video • 10 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
10 minutes
Mary continues her discussion of tracking skills, focusing on tracking requests, agreements with the group and tracking time. Mary also examines how to monitor the purpose of the session, discerning if and when to shift the agreement about the purpose for meeting. Mary closes with some final helpful tips to hone your tracking skills.

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Article • 15 - 23 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
15 - 23 minutes
By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we...

What is Nonviolent Communication?

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer tip: NVC focuses on shared human values and needs, and encourages the use of language that increases good will -- plus avoidance of language that contributes to resentment or lowered self-esteem. It emphasizes taking personal responsibility for choices and improving the quality of relationships as a primary goal. For today, focus on making observations without moralistic judgment in at...

Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: To reduce defensiveness and hurt feelings when talking to your partner about your sexual needs that haven't been met, keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and make a very specific request. From there, you can both explore any shared needs, blocks, or support needed to bring you both closer to your needs.

Empathy Hurdles

Article • 2 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 pages
I want to hear others through the lens of the meaning their actions have for them rather than through the effect their actions have on me. The very root of empathy resides in this fundamental shift. Whenever someone’s actions are at odds with our own needs, most of us, most of the time, do the latter. In that way, we keep our attention on ourselves rather than on the other person. We cannot be...

Mediating with a Group

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: People struggle to come to agreement when they don’t feel heard. So as a mediator, facilitate the process by asking all parties to reflect the essence of what's important to other parties. This is critical. Once everyone is confident that their needs have been heard, you'll notice the energy in the room relaxing. Then you can brainstorm strategies that will value everyone’s needs,...

A Talk About Needs

Audio • 10 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
10 minutes
Listen to this audio to learn the value of focusing on needs in an NVC model, either for the first time or as a refresher course. Living from a needs-consciousness creates abundance, clarity and choice. Using three examples from participants, Mary guides the group towards identifying and then connecting with the needs of both parties involved in each situation. It becomes clear very quickly...

Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (6 Session Course)

Audio • 7-10 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
7-10 hours
Join Kelly Bryson and go Psychologically and Spiritually Spelunking into your own Caverns of Consciousness, using the inner mining tools of NVC Self-Empathy, Progoff Journaling processes, Focusing, and individual work. Get self-empathy tools that will help you rejuvenate yourself and your relationships. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

The Wheel of Awareness

with Gina Cenciose and Shulamit Berlevtov
Practice Exercise • 00:11 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
00:11 hours:minutes
Join CNVC Certified Trainer and Certified Focusing Teacher Shulamit Berlevtov in this brief exercise called the Wheel of Awareness. This exercise will help you become aware of how to distinguish and differentiate your life experience.

Bringing Peace to Kids in Conflict (6 Session Course)

with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei
Audio • 9 -12 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 -12 hours
This 6-session telecourse recording focuses on supporting people who work with children (e.g. parents, teachers, ministers, etc.) in applying the skills of NVC mediation in conflict situations that involve children. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.