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NVC Resources on Feelings


Unappreciated is NOT a Feeling

Unappreciated is NOT a Feeling

Unappreciated is NOT a Feeling

with Rachelle Lamb
Video • 2 minutes • 05/13/2011
Video
2 minutes
05/13/2011
Unappreciated, Judged, Disrespected, Offended, Manipulated... people use these words to describe feelings but these are all words that describe interpretations instead. They're also words that get people's backs up. Talk about unproductive! The solution? Develop a vocabulary of feelings so you can minimize defensiveness in others and facilitate connection.
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Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

with John Kinyon
Audio • 44 minutes • 11/17/2018
Audio
44 minutes
11/17/2018
Mediating a conflict conversation can be challenging – but with tools and practice, that challenge can be transformed. If you're curious about the specific steps needed to achieve that transformation, join John for an exploration of his non-dual mindfulness practice.
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Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

with Bridget Belgrave, Jeff Brown and Mary Mackenzie
Audio • 44 minutes • 03/2012
Audio
44 minutes
03/2012
In this enlightening Trainer Conversation, three veteran CNVC Certified Trainers discuss whether NVC can be learned without first learning Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests (OFNR). The conversation naturally meanders as the trainers grapple with the question, eventually covering a wide-range of topics including the spirituality and true essence of NVC.
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Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Learning Tool • 3 pages • 2008
Learning Tool
3 pages
2008
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.
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Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

with Eric Bowers
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2018
Article
4 - 6 minutes
01/2018
What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathize, be present, attuned, or responsive? Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected...
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Why Do I Feel Depressed?

Why Do I Feel Depressed?

Why Do I Feel Depressed?

with Rachelle Lamb
Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 04/2018
Article
7 - 11 minutes
04/2018
When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems? This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can inadvertertly support unhealthy ways of operating, rather than become a healthy solution. It asks us to see what could be hidden --...
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Self-Empathy Basics

Self-Empathy Basics

Self-Empathy Basics

with Mary Mackenzie
Video • 29 minutes • Circa 2007
Video
29 minutes
Circa 2007
Mary Mackenzie, an internationally renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, demonstrates two exercises that will help you learn fast “on the run” self-empathy techniques. The video includes practical techniques to guide you toward noticing your physical sensations, feelings and needs.
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Increasing Presence Through Observations

Increasing Presence Through Observations

Increasing Presence Through Observations

with John Kinyon
Practice Exercise • 00:26 hours:minutes • 01/2010
Practice Exercise
00:26 hours:minutes
01/2010
John Kinyon leads participants through two Observation Exercises to strengthen their ability to be present. Through the exercises, John distinguishes the difference between feelings, which are emotions felt inside the body, and observations which are witness to our experience.
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Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

with Miki Kashtan
Audio • 6 minutes • 10/2008
Audio
6 minutes
10/2008
Listen to Miki discuss two strategies for bringing NVC into the workplace in ways most likely to be well received. First Miki explains why it's best to focus more on needs than feelings in business environments. Second, she talks about unpacking needs into phrases as a way of enhancing workplace connection.
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