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Colloquial NVC Options

Colloquial NVC Options

Colloquial NVC Options

with Miki Kashtan
Learning Tool • 2 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Learning Tool
2 pages
How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language.
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Expressing Ourselves Honestly

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.
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Change Your Thoughts to Change Your World

Change Your Thoughts to Change Your World

Change Your Thoughts to Change Your World

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Changing your thoughts can change the way people experience you. Just for today, see if you can notice when you have judgmental thoughts about yourself or other people. Then look to translate those thoughts into your feelings and needs. Read on for an example of how this works.
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Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

with Miki Kashtan
Audio • 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 minutes
Listen to Miki discuss two strategies for bringing NVC into the workplace in ways most likely to be well received. First Miki explains why it's best to focus more on needs than feelings in business environments. Second, she talks about unpacking needs into phrases as a way of enhancing workplace connection.
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Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

with Bridget Belgrave, Jeff Brown and Mary Mackenzie
Audio • 44 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
44 minutes
In this enlightening Trainer Conversation, three veteran CNVC Certified Trainers discuss whether NVC can be learned without first learning Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests (OFNR). The conversation naturally meanders as the trainers grapple with the question, eventually covering a wide-range of topics including the spirituality and true essence of NVC.
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The Power of Being Heard

The Power of Being Heard

The Power of Being Heard

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: To defuse anger and create space for resolution, hear the other person’s feelings and needs. If this practice is new to you, you're like to experience fear and resistance in trying it out. However, you'll be more likely to experience a powerful shift, and build your capacity, if you try it anyways.
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Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes
Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that.
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Opening to Intimacy

Opening to Intimacy

Opening to Intimacy

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer tip: Do you have behavioral patterns that block intimacy? When we are feeling our most vulnerable, we often want intimacy but also tend to keep it at bay. Acknowledge your need for intimacy, and find people you can trust to love you as you are.
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Transforming Complaint

Transforming Complaint

Transforming Complaint

with Jim & Jori Manske
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: NVC-based social change naturally emerges from “a certain kind of spirituality”, a quality of spiritual clarity. Intuitions and impulses arising from spiritual clarity are more likely to support sustainable systems. Read on for how to bring more of this in, and ways to transform your complaint into commitment.
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Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

Defusing Anger

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully express your anger and is more likely to help you meet your needs for relief, to be heard, or to be understood.
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It’s All About Please and Thank You

It’s All About Please and Thank You

It’s All About Please and Thank You

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: People’s choice of words may be difficult to hear. In fact, we may feel downright aggravated by them. Whether we enjoy these statements or not, we can begin to recognize that behind each statement is a desire to meet needs, either by saying please or thank you. In this way, we are more likely to feel compassion because we have connected to their humanness. Listen for the please or...
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Staying Self-Connected in a Challenging Dialogue

Staying Self-Connected in a Challenging Dialogue

Staying Self-Connected in a Challenging Dialogue

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 6-9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6-9 minutes
When we're judging we're less able to access both what we care about and constructive next actions. Instead, create more internal space and agency starting with connecting to your feelings and needs; then feel your grief or disappointment; followed by getting curious about the other party's needs and context -- and then based on collective needs and the long term effects make requests or take...
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Honesty Is the Key

Honesty Is the Key

Honesty Is the Key

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: In Nonviolent Communication, we see expressing honesty as a gift of our authenticity, and a chance for others to support us in getting our needs met -- this can flourish and deepen our relationships. We can notice and act on opportunities to be honest with the components of OFNR (Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests).
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