NVC Resources on Compassion

The Cause of Our Feelings

with John Kinyon and Miki Kashtan

Trainer Tip • 3-5 minutes •

Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

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The Value of Transparency

with Kelly Bryson

Audio • 5 minutes •

Audio
5 minutes

In this inspiring audio, Kelly discusses the true value of transparency and "truth." He defines truth as the whole truth, including our inner experience; this could also be called self transparency.

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The Gift of Compassionate Giving

with Jim Manske

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on "mutual giving from the heart"? Using examples, this article offers models for us to follow that could inspire us to treat our NVC practice as one of compassionate giving and receiving.

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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 24. Shine a Light on Your Shadow: Projection Detection and Reclaiming Disowned Parts

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are...

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Agreements, Consequences and Punishment

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 9 minutes •

Audio
9 minutes

In this short but provocative audio, Miki Kashtan talks about agreements, making a vital distinction between the natural consequences of unmet agreements and punishment. She provides information about how to balance our current state of needs associated with our previous agreements.

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Resistance

with John Kinyon

Article • 6-9 minutes •

Article
6-9 minutes

There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly,...

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Making Collaboration Real: Connection and Effectiveness in the Workplace Using NVC (3 Session Course)

with Francois Beausoleil, Martha Lasley and Miki Kashtan

Audio • 3 - 4 hours •

Audio
3 - 4 hours

This 3-session course recording facilitated by Francois Beausoleil, Martha Lasley and Miki Kashtan will support you in bringing NVC consciousness to your workplace or organization.

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Enriching Life

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: If you are motivated by fear, guilt, blame or shame, your actions will usually be motivated by avoiding pain. The best way to experience permanent, lifelong change is to focus on how your life will improve when you make a change. Notice when you attempt to motivate yourself and others with guilt, blame, or shame today, and then look for motivations that enrich life instead.

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Getting Past Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Using NVC as a tool to transform our judgments can revolutionize our perceptions and relationships.

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Forgiving Ourselves

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Every single time you say or do something, even when you experience pain or regret, you are trying to meet a need. Forgiveness begins when we acknowledge the needs we were trying to meet in the situation.

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Doing Something Different

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Commit to doing one thing right now that will bring you closer to meeting a need today. Do it today. Don’t put it off. This is your life.

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Giraffe Consciousness

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: Why do NVC practitioners sometimes use the giraffe as a metaphor for NVC consciousness? What can it help us understand about NVC consciousness? Read on for more.

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Colloquial NVC Options

with Miki Kashtan

Learning Tool • 2 pages •

Learning Tool
2 pages

How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language.

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Sociocratic Meeting Facilitation: For All the Meetings in Your Life (6 Session Course)

with Greg Rouillard, John Buck and Jerry Koch-Gonzalez

Audio • 7 - 9 hours •

Audio
7 - 9 hours

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Jerry Koch-Gonzalez, Greg Rouillard and Certified Dynamic Governance (Sociocracy) Consultant John Buck for this six-session course recording to learn how to transform your method of meeting facilitation. Many NVC organizations have begun using sociocratic tools, including circle meetings and decision making by consent, with satisfying results.

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A List of Needs We All Have

with NVC Academy Staff

Learning Tool • N/A •

Learning Tool
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In a Nonviolent Communication model, we believe that everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need. That means that all actions or words are in service to a deep internal need. The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive.

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Experience More Joy and Success at Work

with Dian Killian, PhD, Gregg Kendrick, Martha Lasley, Mary Mackenzie, Mel Sears, Wes Taylor

Audio • 57 minutes •

Audio
57 minutes

If you’d like to bring more joy and fun into your workplace, listen to this trainer dialogue for NVC tips and tools from some of the leading experts in the industry.

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The Value of Just Being

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • N/A •

Trainer Tip
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When it comes to how you're achieving your goals, notice what you value. Is achievement coming at others' expense? Where is your sense of worth and validation derived from? Do other people in some way set the bar that you strive to surpass? Without comparing to other people, what does success mean to you? Read on for a related story.

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