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NVC Resources on Connection



Unappreciated is NOT a Feeling

Video • 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
2 minutes
Unappreciated, Judged, Disrespected, Offended, Manipulated... people use these words to describe feelings but these are all words that describe interpretations instead. They're also words that get people's backs up. Talk about unproductive! The solution? Develop a vocabulary of feelings so you can minimize defensiveness in others and facilitate connection.

Lonely Together

Article • 5 - 7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes
When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships,...

Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: To reduce defensiveness and hurt feelings when talking to your partner about your sexual needs that haven't been met, keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and make a very specific request. From there, you can both explore any shared needs, blocks, or support needed to bring you both closer to your needs.

Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

Audio • 8 - 11 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
8 - 11 hours
This 5-session telecourse recording is designed to support you in learning what makes giving and receiving feedback challenging and how you can turn these experiences into opportunities for learning, connection, and effective functioning. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication

Article • 5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes
We're more likely to sacrifice trust, connection, and relationship quality when (1.) We use NVC to focus on being seen, understood, heard, or meeting our own needs in a way that eclipses our view and understanding of others needs; (2.) We don't clearly examine our intentions; and (3.) We use the NVC form so rigidly that it becomes difficult for others to connect with us authentically.

Let it RAIN!

with Jim Manske
Article • 5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes
This article outlines a four-part transformation process to help us recognize what's giving rise to our suffering and resentment -- and transform it into more freedom, creativity, and choice.

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 9 hours
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 9 hours
Your needs and your values are your Life Force: the river that flows through your spirit and your life, giving life and light to your being. Explore this river with Robert, and map out routes that support your growth. Listen In. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Naturalizing NVC Language Series: Don’t Use That Psych 101 with Me!

Audio • 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
5 minutes
CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan helps a man whose ex-spouse reacted strongly to his attempt at empathizing with her. Miki shows us how it’s possible to hide behind our empathic expression, creating less rather than more connection. She suggests instead that we be vulnerably authentic.

Expressing Appreciation

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer tip: When you want to thank someone expressing what that person did, how you felt about and what needs were met for you, can provide the other person with more information. It can also help her more fully understand how she contributed to you, and deepen your connection with her.

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Audio • 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 minutes
Listen to Miki discuss two strategies for bringing NVC into the workplace in ways most likely to be well received. First Miki explains why it's best to focus more on needs than feelings in business environments. Second, she talks about unpacking needs into phrases as a way of enhancing workplace connection.

Embracing Empathy: In-depth Practice for Getting Empathy into your Bones (4 Session Course)

Audio • 4 - 6 hours
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
4 - 6 hours
This telecourse recording is for anyone wanting to integrate empathy into his/her life in a more natural, authentic way. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. nvctraining.com

What the World Needs

Article • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 pages
In this written transcript of a live presentation, Inbal Kashtan shares how she first became aware of poverty. She explains how empathy is a vital and powerful force for creating peace in our world today, and a powerful means of creating a world that works for all of us.

The Value of Taking a Step Back

Article • 4 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 pages
Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

 
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