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NVC Resources on Connection


Workplace Series: Turning a Mandatory Meeting Into a Collaboration

Audio • 8 minutes • 
Audio
8 minutes
Miki works with a course participant to transform begrudging attendance at a mandatory meeting into the possibility for collaboration, more connection where little is expected and focus on clarity of purpose for meeting in the first place.

NVC Life Hacks 15: Scary Honesty

Video • 4 minutes • 
Video
4 minutes
It's normal for us to keep something inside, avoiding sharing it with someone else as the risk may feel too high. Maybe they will reject me, or be offended and not speak to me again? It can be difficult to know when to share your truth and when to keep it inside. In this episode we layout some useful strategies that will help you speak your truth, while still keeping the connection.

3 Simple Keys To Dissolving Reactivity In Dialogue

Practice Exercise • 7 - 10 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
7 - 10 minutes
Reactivity can be big or subtle. Pressuring yourself or someone to be or do a certain way without trying to understand them with curiosity, is a form of reactivity. Reactivity can create much damage in the short and long term. Catch it early –through discernment, transparency, and remembering that connection is key– and you can foster more open and fulfilling relationships.

From Blame To Power

Practice Exercise • 12 -18 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
12 -18 minutes
Blame is opaque when we don’t reflect on it deeply. We blame when we don’t see ourselves as having power to shape things, and see others as the ones who can. Blame and how we respond to it, is both a symptom of inability to step into power, and an impediment to empowered relationships. Transforming blame requires self-responsibility. Read on for practices involving empathy, inner connection,...

W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
With these practices make space before reacting to emotion or external stimulus. This can enable your capacity to respond from your self-connection to universally shared values. With practice you can create the capacity to temporarily put impulsiveness aside, in the service of connection with yourself and others, and in service of more informed and effective strategies.

How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably

Practice Exercise • 5 - 7 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
5 - 7 minutes
Sharing more vulnerably provides opportunities for fulfilling connection. As social beings we rely on feedback to see our effect on others. We can get that feedback through body language, facial cues and words. To expand your capacity to share more vulnerably you can create supportive conditions and timing. You can ask for feedback by making in-the-moment requests of others and yourself before...

The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
We're more likely to sacrifice trust, connection, and relationship quality when (1.) We use NVC to focus on being seen, understood, heard, or meeting our own needs in a way that eclipses our view and understanding of others needs; (2.) We don't clearly examine our intentions; and (3.) We use the NVC form so rigidly that it becomes difficult for others to connect with us authentically.

Introduction to the Living Energy of Needs

with Susan Skye
Audio • 1 hour, 5 minutes • 
Audio
1 hour, 5 minutes
Join Susan Skye in this hour-long audio recording to learn how to experience the NVC consciousness as an embodied, living practice of the 'Living Energy of Needs." This recording includes a supportive learning exercise and tips for expressing needs in a non-mechanical way. "Over the years, I have noticed that people -- including trainers and facilitators -- use the words of the NVC process...

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown
Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Audio • 6 minutes • 
Audio
6 minutes
Listen to Miki discuss two strategies for bringing NVC into the workplace in ways most likely to be well received. First Miki explains why it's best to focus more on needs than feelings in business environments. Second, she talks about unpacking needs into phrases as a way of enhancing workplace connection.

Naturalizing NVC Language Series: Don’t Use That Psych 101 with Me!

Audio • 5 minutes • 
Audio
5 minutes
CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan helps a man whose ex-spouse reacted strongly to his attempt at empathizing with her. Miki shows us how it’s possible to hide behind our empathic expression, creating less rather than more connection. She suggests instead that we be vulnerably authentic.

Two Basics That Support Conflict Resolution

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
Connecting with self and other is key to care and creativity. Before dialogue connect with your intention and needs for being with grief, fear or pain, and empathy. Dialogue when you're both rested, fed, and have spaciousness. Start by expressing care and desire to find mutually satisfying solutions. To deepen connection you may repeat what you hear and ask the other person to do the same.

Lonely Together

Article • 5 - 7 minutes • 
Article
5 - 7 minutes
When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships,...

VIVENCIA: The Art of Empathic Intelligence (8 Session Course)

Audio • 9 hours, 54 minutes • 
Audio
9 hours, 54 minutes
In this telecourse recording, you'll learn to differentiate between cerebral empathy and intuitive empathic listening. Awaken your sensitivity towards body sensations and inner feelings to recognize the clear inner clues to your empathic connection.

Street NVC: Bringing Your NVC Practice into Everyday Life! (4 Session Course)

Audio • 3 - 4 hours • 
Audio
3 - 4 hours
Listen to CNVC Certified Trainer Dian Killian show you how to easily step into the mindset of an NVC practice—the spirit of connection and collaboration—that will support you in authentically connecting with others.