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NVC Resources on Presence

Breaking Free of "If Only You Were Different, They Would Change"

Breaking Free of "If Only You Were Different, They Would Change"

Breaking Free of "If Only You Were Different, They Would Change"

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes •

Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

Because we affect one another it can be hard to know where to take responsibility and where to leave it with the other person. This means we need self empathy, and presence for another's struggles without compulsion to "make them happy" or bring them healthy change. You can then attend to the needs and to your choice about if and how you want to contribute with compassion. Respect them as...

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

with Mary Mackenzie

Video • 6 minutes •

Video
6 minutes

Mary offers tips for developing effective tracking skills, including how the energy of the group is managed discerning the qualities of presence for each of the members, and monitoring group participation while striving for a balance of inclusion.

Acting in Accordance With Our Values

Acting in Accordance With Our Values

Acting in Accordance With Our Values

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Your every action has an effect on other people’s lives. The nature of the impact may not be obvious to us, but that doesn’t diminish its presence. The next time you are tempted to snap at someone or cut in front of another driver, consider whether you’d like to be their story that evening. Consider whether this is the kind of contribution you’d like to make to their life.

Don’t Assume You Know What Other People Need

Don’t Assume You Know What Other People Need

Don’t Assume You Know What Other People Need

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Sometimes when we look to fix someone's problems we think we're doing it to make them feel better, but in reality we are uncomfortable and we want to feel better. Instead of assuming you know what their problem is or what they need, listen deeply. Your listening presence can bring relief to the both of you and provide additional opportunities for healing. And along the way they may...

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes •

Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes

Healthy differentiation is key to personal growth, learning and thriving relationships. When healthy differentiation is present, you can discern what's true for you and what you are and aren't responsible for in an interaction, and can be fully who you are in the presence of others. There are a number of ways you can become aware of and cultivate healthy differentiation. Let’s look at two here:...

Feast for the Soul: Awakening

Feast for the Soul: Awakening

Feast for the Soul: Awakening

with Kathy Ziola

Audio • 53 minutes •

Audio
53 minutes

From the depths of internal winter to the melting open in the warm sunshine of spring to rest in the ocean of Spirit, this poetry is a journey of discovering deep Presence through the human experiences so many of us share.

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.

Help for Overwhelm

Help for Overwhelm

Help for Overwhelm

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 3-5 minutes •

Article
3-5 minutes

Reducing overwhelm requires you to reconnect with your authentic choice, be present and compassionate with what's happening, heal trauma, and interrupt the trauma response. Read on for ways that may help you reconnect with your choice, presence and more on trauma.

Secure Differentiation

Secure Differentiation

Secure Differentiation

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. If you're happier when you are not in an intimate relationship you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn core...

Attending to Inner Conflict

Attending to Inner Conflict

Attending to Inner Conflict

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 13 - 19 minutes •

Article
13 - 19 minutes

When we have an inner conflict, how can we bring ourselves closer where we want to be? Miki explains about how we can deepen our self understanding in a way that can transform our own reactivity, urges, and false either/or views -- so that we can bring in more presence, choice, and options.

How to Enjoy Your Family Dinner

How to Enjoy Your Family Dinner

How to Enjoy Your Family Dinner

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 49 minutes •

Audio
49 minutes

If you dread family gatherings because of family tensions, you can find ways to excavate through piles of hardened judgments and hopelessness, build on your inner strength, and engage with family conflicts with open-hearted curiosity, greater presence, and connecting with what really matters to everyone.

Cultivating Gratitude

Cultivating Gratitude

Cultivating Gratitude

with Jim & Jori Manske

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Here's a five-step 30 day practice to cultivate gratitude, using the practice of observations, needs, feelings, presence, vitality, awareness of contribution, sharing power and interdependence.

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

with John Kinyon

Audio • 2 hours, 10 minutes •

Audio
2 hours, 10 minutes

In this recorded telecourse, John Kinyon, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, guides you through processes to strengthen your capacity for mindful presence and awareness of your thinking, and to develop the skills to translate thoughts into observations.

Silent Empathy

Silent Empathy

Silent Empathy

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Silent empathy can be a powerful way of contributing to someone's life, giving them the gift of our presence.

Empathizing with Someone Who is Silent

Empathizing with Someone Who is Silent

Empathizing with Someone Who is Silent

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: When someone is unresponsive it can be an opportunity to bring in more presence and connection through empathy. They may be worried that if they speak they'll say something they'll regret. Or they may want to know that their needs matters as much as yours. They may also need more space to clarify their thoughts.

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

with Oren Jay Sofer

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, amongst some of the things we need is a well nourished heart. To nourish our hearts we need to discern where to wisely put our attention. Here are three practices to reclaim your attention, and replenish your reserves, so that you have the inner resources to do the work that is calling you. They are: train the mind, nourish the...

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske

Article • 5-8 minutes •

Article
5-8 minutes

As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

with Roberta Wall & Barbara Bash

Audio • 6 - 8 hours •

Audio
6 - 8 hours

Find renewed aliveness and connection in your daily life through NVC and Buddhist Mindfulness practices. NVC can be lived as a Mindfulness Practice and consciousness that helps us be more present, open and loving to the flow of life within ourselves and in relation to others. Buddhist principles and practices can add depth and insight to NVC practice and consciousness.

Resistance

Resistance

Resistance

with John Kinyon

Article • 6-9 minutes •

Article
6-9 minutes

There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly,...

Making Collaboration Real: Connection and Effectiveness in the Workplace Using NVC (3 Session Course)

Making Collaboration Real: Connection and Effectiveness in the Workplace Using NVC (3 Session Course)

Making Collaboration Real: Connection and Effectiveness in the Workplace Using NVC (3 Session Course)

with Francois Beausoleil, Martha Lasley and Miki Kashtan

Audio • 3 - 4 hours •

Audio
3 - 4 hours

This 3-session course recording facilitated by Francois Beausoleil, Martha Lasley and Miki Kashtan will support you in bringing NVC consciousness to your workplace or organization.

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