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NVC Resources on Connection Requests



Tips for the Road Series: Tip 2. Cultivate Connection before Asking for Action

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Learn when to use the two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection.

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (Complete Course)

with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning
Audio • 3 hours, 17 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Audio
3 hours, 17 minutes
Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske
Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes
As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests (Complete Course)

Audio • 5 hours, 11 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
5 hours, 11 minutes
In this telecourse recording, expert trainer Miki Kashtan will help you uncover what prevents you from asking for everything you want without fear. The class includes daily practices for ongoing skill building.

Demands vs Requests

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy everyone. It thus opens possibilities and helps build connection.

Colloquial NVC Options

Learning Tool • 2 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Learning Tool
2 pages
How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language.

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

Article • 9 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 pages
Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

Not Trusting the “Yes”

Audio • 24 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
24 minutes
In this audio recording, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don't trust someone's "yes," how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say "no" to our requests. In this 2-part audio series, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don’t trust someone’s “yes,” how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say...

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Learning Tool • 3 pages
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
3 pages
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

Getting Conversations Back on Track

Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What can you do to move towards connection when you you sense reactivity, defense, withdrawal or conflict arising? You can make a connection request, check the congruence between your body language and your words, and get curious about the impact of your actions. When you've tried everything you could also acknowledge that something is off, and choose to come back together when both parties have...

Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

Article • 11 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages
CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

 
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