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Lonely Together

Article • 5 - 7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes
When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships,...

Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

Article • 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes
Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that.

NVC Principles

Video • 22 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
22 minutes
In this 3-part video, Miki Kashtan discusses the spiritual nature of NVC, delves deeper into the NVC concept of needs and offers practical tools to make requests in ways that others are more likely to respond to positively.

Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics (5 Session Course)

Audio • 3 hours, 49 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
3 hours, 49 minutes
Join Linda Mia Mukte (formerly Rysenbry), CNVC Certified Trainer, for this uniquely powerful telecourse recording that blends NVC with Dr. Sue Johnson’s empirically validated work on adult love relationships called EFCT: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.

Creating Real Challenges—Are you Game?

Article • 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
A challenge is an expansion of making a clear, positive doable request — and, when given, the person feels deeply seen by the challenger. A challenge isn't just about getting someone to take action on something important to them; it's a fierce form of empathy that supports people in connecting with their life force, and integrates it into their lives with action. A real challenge is tied to the...

Clarifying Our Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: We often find ourselves slipping into old behaviors that we would rather change. This is because we don’t have a new plan for responding to the same old situations. In that case, notice whether you are slipping into old behaviors today. Connect to your unmet needs and then identify a new strategy for the situation.

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.

Workplace Series: Turning a Mandatory Meeting Into a Collaboration

Audio • 8 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
8 minutes
Miki works with a course participant to transform begrudging attendance at a mandatory meeting into the possibility for collaboration, more connection where little is expected and focus on clarity of purpose for meeting in the first place.

 
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