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Empathy For Children

Empathy For Children

Empathy For Children

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: The better you connect with your child’s needs, the more you will defuse the power struggle. If he wants to behave in a way you don't like, start by understanding what's going on with him by making empathic guesses. Doing this out loud can expand your child’s emotional vocabulary and show that his needs matter to you, and build his trust. Once you learn what's going on with him,...

Enjoying the Jackal Show

Enjoying the Jackal Show

Enjoying the Jackal Show

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Be aware of your inner jackal chatter today and make a commitment to listen for the underlying needs they are trying to tell you about.

A Focus on Needs

A Focus on Needs

A Focus on Needs

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Today look for opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person.

The Value of Change

The Value of Change

The Value of Change

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Wanting collaboration? Show you value the other person's needs as much as your own. After you both feel heard, you can make joint decisions about specifics of the agreement, such as "division of work", "scope of project", "when the action will take place", "how it'll be done" and "timing of follow up to see how things went". Read on for an example of how this is applied to asking...

Creating More Efficient Meetings

Creating More Efficient Meetings

Creating More Efficient Meetings

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Meetings can be unproductive when the participants aren’t clear about their needs or what they want from the group. When participants express opinions without expressing a need or informing the group of what they want, the meeting lacks clarity. Instead, if we can focus on naming our needs and make related requests, we can get closer to resolution much faster and enjoy the process...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes •

Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes

What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

Prepare for Love (12 Session Course)

Prepare for Love (12 Session Course)

Prepare for Love (12 Session Course)

with Eric Bowers

Audio • 9 hours, 7 minutes •

Audio
9 hours, 7 minutes

Join Eric Bowers in transforming past relationship pain, coming alive in community and creating thriving relationships. This 12 session Telecourse recording brings together Eric's passions for Nonviolent Communication, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology.

Integral Awareness and Practice for NVC Practitioners: Deepening NVC with Ken Wilber’s Integral Framework (6 Session Course)

Integral Awareness and Practice for NVC Practitioners: Deepening NVC with Ken Wilber’s Integral Framework (6 Session Course)

Integral Awareness and Practice for NVC Practitioners: Deepening NVC with Ken Wilber’s Integral Framework (6 Session Course)

with Alan Rafael Seid

Audio • 7 hours, 30 minutes •

Audio
7 hours, 30 minutes

This telecourse recording gives NVC Practitioners a guided tour of Ken Wilber’s work, a meta-theory (theory of theories) that includes as much knowledge and wisdom from as many sources as possible. You will explore how NVC and Integral Framework mesh, overlap and complement each other.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 5. Separate Needs from Outcomes and Strategies

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 5. Separate Needs from Outcomes and Strategies

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 5. Separate Needs from Outcomes and Strategies

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Eric Bowers explains how needs and strategies correlate to different brain hemispheres, and how relaxing into our needs opens us to greater possibilities.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

Workplace relationships are complex. Each employee brings their unique self to work. Their background, perspective, emotional triggers, and working style. Add to this the dynamics of power relations, and the fact that often workplace communication now takes place at our computer keyboards rather than face-to-face. Sylvia Haskvitz offers practical tips to make today's complex workplace...

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes •

Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

Opening to Intimacy

Opening to Intimacy

Opening to Intimacy

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Do you have behavioral patterns that block intimacy? When we are feeling our most vulnerable, we often want intimacy but also tend to keep it at bay. Acknowledge your need for intimacy, and find people you can trust to love you as you are.

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.

Communicating with Children

Communicating with Children

Communicating with Children

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Empathy can offer profound learning opportunities to children, expand their feelings and needs vocabulary, and teach them the positive results of valuing everyone’s needs. Read on for a story that illustrates this.

Control as a Need

Control as a Need

Control as a Need

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: "I often hear people say that someone did something because of a need for control. Control is actually a strategy that is often confused with a need."

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Anger can be an opportunity to hear the "Please" behind the words and create a path to resolve conflicts compassionately.

Developing Your Own Teaching Exercises in 8 Steps

Developing Your Own Teaching Exercises in 8 Steps

Developing Your Own Teaching Exercises in 8 Steps

with Mary Mackenzie

Video • 8 minutes •

Video
8 minutes

Developing our own teaching exercises is a powerful consciousness-building process that eventually helps us clarify our own way of learning and to develop our unique style of teaching.

Needs, the Third Component of Compassionate Communication

Needs, the Third Component of Compassionate Communication

Needs, the Third Component of Compassionate Communication

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: In Compassionate Communication, we consider needs to be universal. That means that while we all have the same needs, such as for love, support, shelter, food, joy, caring, etc., we choose different ways to meet our needs.

Engage Your Curiosity

Engage Your Curiosity

Engage Your Curiosity

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.

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