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NVC Resources on Listening

Embracing Your Wounded Child

Embracing Your Wounded Child

Embracing Your Wounded Child

with Martha Lasley

Video • 45 minutes •

Video
45 minutes

It's never too late to have a happy childhood. In this class, Martha will share the process for witnessing a wounded child. She will work with a volunteer to demonstrate the power of creating safety, listening empathically, and honoring the child's deepest needs.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 16. Help Others Build Their Own Truth-Finding Neural Pathways

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 16. Help Others Build Their Own Truth-Finding Neural Pathways

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 16. Help Others Build Their Own Truth-Finding Neural Pathways

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Along with it’s potential for helping others calm their emotions and feel deeply understood, the Nonviolent Communication process of empathetic listening can help someone increase their capacity for finding their own truth.

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

with Roxy Manning

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

"All humans share the same needs" -- tragically, this idea can hide the reality that some people with less power in society have needs that go unmet to a greater extent, much longer, and with more dire consequences. Often, when the marginalized bring up experiences related to their membership in a certain group, their pain isn't acknowledged, and focus shifts to the listener's discomfort. The...

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

with Dian Killian PhD and Martha Lasley

Audio • 51 minutes •

Audio
51 minutes

Listen to this newly remastered audio with seasoned Life Coach and CNVC Certified Trainers Martha Lasley and Dian Killian, to explore how you can "be the change" in your life, to live fully in integrity with your values in your work, community, faith and social action groups.

How to Ask for Responsiveness

How to Ask for Responsiveness

How to Ask for Responsiveness

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 3-5 minutes •

Article
3-5 minutes

If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more you can do this, the more it can create supportive relationships in your life. Read on for ways to ask for a particular kind of responsiveness to meet...

Experiencing the Energy of Your Needs Meditation

Experiencing the Energy of Your Needs Meditation

Experiencing the Energy of Your Needs Meditation

with Mary Mackenzie

Audio • 4 minutes •

Audio
4 minutes

Mary Mackenzie leads listeners through a guided meditation to experience the energy of needs. This meditation will support you to connect to your feelings and needs in the moment, and to experience the unique and deep energetic quality of that primary need.

The Compass - Awakening to the Journey from You to Yourself

The Compass - Awakening to the Journey from You to Yourself

The Compass - Awakening to the Journey from You to Yourself

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 21 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 21 minutes

Enjoy listening in as Arnina assists participants in fine tuning what they wish for their futures, and what practices they intend to embrace as the course winds down. She also offers strategies for what they can do if they forget their intended practice, and revisits the importance of untangling Needs from Core Belief.

Needs-Based Negotiation: 3 Stages Of Dialogue And 3 Types Of Reactivity

Needs-Based Negotiation: 3 Stages Of Dialogue And 3 Types Of Reactivity

Needs-Based Negotiation: 3 Stages Of Dialogue And 3 Types Of Reactivity

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes •

Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes

When there's quality connection then collaboration and creativity generosity of heart can come. Then strategies honoring everyone’s needs are easier. This requires us to trust connection, hear needs, brainstorm, experiment, prepare, and hold confidence that everyone’s needs can be met. Needs-based negotiation starts there. What derails this? Feeling urgency, listening from our (dis)likes or...

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Step Into Your Vision

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Step Into Your Vision

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Step Into Your Vision

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour •

Audio
1 hour

Enjoy listening to Miki make the distinction between leadership as a position and leadership as an orientation to life. The theme: when is it time to actively step into your vision?! Check it out.

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.

The Spiral Blend

The Spiral Blend

The Spiral Blend

with David Weinstock

Video • 15 minutes •

Video
15 minutes

David explores how movement helps you hold your center when navigating challenging conversations. Example: Move to Wind ~ to calm your system; Move to Ground ~ to notice the ground on which you stand; and Step to Shikaku ~ step behind to practice empathic listening. Listen Now.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 9. Make Poetry Out of Empathy

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 9. Make Poetry Out of Empathy

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 9. Make Poetry Out of Empathy

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Nonviolent Communication includes a practice of empathy that involves listening for feelings and needs no matter how someone expresses themselves, and reflecting back the feelings and needs when it is helpful to do so. You can reflect back in a traditional NVC manner, or in a more creative way, with metaphors.

Groups Tip Series: How Can I Support More Collaboration?

Groups Tip Series: How Can I Support More Collaboration?

Groups Tip Series: How Can I Support More Collaboration?

with Miki Kashtan

Trainer Tip • 4 minutes •

Trainer Tip
4 minutes

It seems to me that people see ideas which are different from theirs as threatening. Instead of listening, the group polarizes around the different ideas and a lot of judgments develop, conflicts develop and people feel hurt. Forward progress becomes a battle ground. How can I support more collaboration?

Enjoying the Jackal Show

Enjoying the Jackal Show

Enjoying the Jackal Show

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Be aware of your inner jackal chatter today and make a commitment to listen for the underlying needs they are trying to tell you about.

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.

Crafting Connection Requests

Crafting Connection Requests

Crafting Connection Requests

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes •

Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes

Try this four step exercise for making connection requests to support understanding, and to learn what effect your words had on the listener. In this exercise you'll choose a situation where you have clarity about what outcome will really work for you (your solution request), but where you imagine your desired outcome may not work for the other person, and/or are not sure there is sufficient...

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

with Mary Mackenzie

Video • 6 minutes •

Video
6 minutes

Mary offers tips for developing effective tracking skills, including how the energy of the group is managed discerning the qualities of presence for each of the members, and monitoring group participation while striving for a balance of inclusion.

Two Essential Tips for Facilitating Vibrant NVC Groups

Two Essential Tips for Facilitating Vibrant NVC Groups

Two Essential Tips for Facilitating Vibrant NVC Groups

with Mary Mackenzie

Video • 10 minutes •

Video
10 minutes

Listen to Mary Mackenzie as she focuses on her opening premise for group participation, which lays the foundation for developing vibrant groups and then defines the facilitator’s role, which is often not known or incorrectly defined.

How to Create Your Own Teaching Activities

How to Create Your Own Teaching Activities

How to Create Your Own Teaching Activities

with Mary Mackenzie

Video • 49 minutes •

Video
49 minutes

Listen as Mary Mackenzie shares an eight step path to create your own NVC learning activities, based on your own NVC learning experience. In this session, Mary uses the value of requests and observations as teaching examples.

Courage

Courage

Courage

with David Weinstock

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

In listening to what our emotions tell us, and embracing what we do not know, we begin the path of courage. Even though our culture tells us not to, revealing our imperfections is where we can deeply connect. Living our lives more courageously honest, can shift us towards inspiring one another. Read on for how some people experienced this in coming together to transform one woman's heroine...

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