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NVC Resources on Mourning


Blame, Responsibility, And Care

Article • 11 - 16 minutes • 
Article
11 - 16 minutes
One NVC principle is "stimulus vs cause" - one may be the stimulus but never the cause of another's feelings. When we're upset this principle can help us express pain without blame. However, when others are upset it's easy to slip into blaming them using this principle. Instead, we can hear their pain with care and heartfelt mourning - without guilt nor defensiveness, and whether or not we...

Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty

Article • 5 - 7 minutes • 
Article
5 - 7 minutes
Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and propose a way forward. This means caring for your needs regardless of their response -- and mourning if their response...

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Article
4 - 6 minutes
We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.)...

Time And Money: Reflection Questions and Exercise

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
Use these reflection questions and exercise to practice moving from a place of scarcity to empowerment and conscious choice regarding money and time. The exercise will ask you to identify your thoughts, feelings, and needs. And it will ask you to identify both what to mourn and what next actions you want to take. It includes a feelings and needs sheet.

Developing Compassion for Humans, Animals and All Life (4 Session Course)

Audio • 5 - 7 hours • 
Audio
5 - 7 hours
Join LoraKim Joyner to investigate how merging science, the social and emotional intelligence of humans, animals and other species and Nonviolent Communication can bring a greater sense of belonging and wholeness to your life, and care and justice to the lives of others.

Clarity, Compassion and Empowerment (6 Session Course)

Audio • 7 - 10 hours • 
Audio
7 - 10 hours
Living Compassion, for Robert, represents the spirituality that resides in every aspect of Nonviolent Communication. Its foundational principles are represented by three primary qualities or states of being: clarity, compassion and empowerment. In this course you’ll explore – and practice – how the unfolding of inner clarity opens your way to compassion, which further unfolds into empowerment....

The Value of Just Being

Trainer Tip • N/A • 
Trainer Tip
N/A
When it comes to how you're achieving your goals, notice what you value. Is achievement coming at others' expense? Where is your sense of worth and validation derived from? Do other people in some way set the bar that you strive to surpass? Without comparing to other people, what does success mean to you? Read on for a related story.