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NVC Resources on Responsibility

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes •

Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes

Healthy differentiation is key to personal growth, learning and thriving relationships. When healthy differentiation is present, you can discern what's true for you and what you are and aren't responsible for in an interaction, and can be fully who you are in the presence of others. There are a number of ways you can become aware of and cultivate healthy differentiation. Let’s look at two here:...

Living the Self-in-Life: Presence and Self-Compassion

Living the Self-in-Life: Presence and Self-Compassion

Living the Self-in-Life: Presence and Self-Compassion

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 30 minutes •

Audio
30 minutes

During this very moving session, you'll dive into Robert's exercises for supporting connection to your true self as opposed to your conditioned self.

Understanding And Recognizing Enmeshment

Understanding And Recognizing Enmeshment

Understanding And Recognizing Enmeshment

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes •

Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

Enmeshment refers to confusion about who is responsible for what. This lack of clear boundaries results in attempts to manage the other person's experience as a substitute for managing your own. When you think you're contributing to another person, but you're actually acting from enmeshment, there's inner tension and contraction. Read on for 16 common signs of enmeshment so that you can know...

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

with Roxy Manning

Article • 23 - 34 minutes •

Article
23 - 34 minutes

Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay...

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication

with Sarah Peyton

Article • 10 - 15 minutes •

Article
10 - 15 minutes

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another. Why? One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship with others.

What Makes NVC Hard?

What Makes NVC Hard?

What Makes NVC Hard?

with Sarah Peyton

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another. Why? One reason could be that our brains maybe less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship to others...

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

with Dian Killian

Article • 12 - 18 minutes •

Article
12 - 18 minutes

Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in...

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

with Lore Baur

Video • 44 minutes •

Video
44 minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur asks: "Have you ever seen something happen that made you feel uncomfortable and you didn't know what to do?" That's the "bystander effect:" a well-researched and commonly experienced phenomenon. Training can help you overcome it, enabling you to discern what to do and how to support others in ways that reduce trauma and increase safety.

Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

with Bob Wentworth

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

For us to have a more peaceful world and relationships, growing our skills to engage interdependently is key. An interdependence-oriented person may choose to attend to both inner factors and outer factors that affect their own and others' experiences. Unfortunately, this is likely to be misunderstood by independence-oriented people as enmeshment -- and this is where conflict emerges. Read on...

Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

with Bob Wentworth

Article • 7 - 11 minutes •

Article
7 - 11 minutes

With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often...

NVC Life Hacks 30: How to Stay Sane in the Climate and Ecological Emergency

NVC Life Hacks 30: How to Stay Sane in the Climate and Ecological Emergency

NVC Life Hacks 30: How to Stay Sane in the Climate and Ecological Emergency

with Shantigarbha Warren

Video • 9 minutes •

Video
9 minutes

With more and more news coverage on the increase in climate events around the world, climate change is slowly becoming accepted as an emergency. But how do we stay sane amongst all the chaos and to go one step further how can we take action whilst being grounded and calm?

Clarity, Compassion and Empowerment (6 Session Course)

Clarity, Compassion and Empowerment (6 Session Course)

Clarity, Compassion and Empowerment (6 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 7 - 10 hours •

Audio
7 - 10 hours

Living Compassion, for Robert, represents the spirituality that resides in every aspect of Nonviolent Communication. Its foundational principles are represented by three primary qualities or states of being: clarity, compassion and empowerment. In this course you’ll explore – and practice – how the unfolding of inner clarity opens your way to compassion, which further unfolds into empowerment....

Integration of Inner and Outer: Our Relationship to ALL of Life (5 Session Course)

Integration of Inner and Outer: Our Relationship to ALL of Life (5 Session Course)

Integration of Inner and Outer: Our Relationship to ALL of Life (5 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 6 - 9 hours •

Audio
6 - 9 hours

During this course, you'll deeply examine this process of blending and integrating your inner and outer selves. Not only will you explore various states of being, such as defensive / protective and being / essence, you'll delve into the primary levels of relationship: to others, to the world and to life, acquire tools for transforming resistance into unconditional acceptance, and much more.

Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (8 Session Course)

Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (8 Session Course)

Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (8 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Video • 6 hours •

Video
6 hours

If you're interested in learning specifically how and what you can do to live compassionately – with plenty of hands-on practice time – this course is for you. Observe actual demonstrations of Robert guiding participants through the transformational territory of healing and integration.

Moving From Blame to Self-Responsibility

Moving From Blame to Self-Responsibility

Moving From Blame to Self-Responsibility

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 2 - 5 minutes •

Article
2 - 5 minutes

Often when someone else does something we don't like, it's easy to blame the other person. After all, we have all been trained to focus on fault when needs are not met. What can we do to shift that pattern?

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

It can be challenging to tell people that you don’t like a certain behaviour or action of theirs. Even with supportive intentions and compassionate language your message might be difficult for someone to receive. Of course, we are not responsible for others’ reactions, but we are responsible to care about each other, and there are effective ways to express ourselves with more care.

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

with Dian Killian

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?). This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...

Life-Alienating Communication

Life-Alienating Communication

Life-Alienating Communication

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Be aware of times when you are judging others, demanding, making comparisons, or denying responsibility for your actions. Notice how these communication patterns affect your connection with other people.

Codependency: From Rescuer To Taker

Codependency: From Rescuer To Taker

Codependency: From Rescuer To Taker

with Eddie Zacapa

Article • 5 - 7 minutes •

Article
5 - 7 minutes

Codependency occurs when others' behavior affects us in unhealthy ways and we get obsessed with controlling their behavior. For example, we may focus on other's needs while neglect what matters to us, and resent it. Or we may depend on others to rescue us from results of our actions. Or we may fix or rescue others' neglected responsibilities. Or we may make others responsible for our needs....

Healing From Betrayal

Healing From Betrayal

Healing From Betrayal

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 5- 8 minutes •

Article
5- 8 minutes

Repairing betrayal may include rebuilding self trust, getting support, empathy on both sides over time, and new agreements. Even though your (in)actions don't "cause" someone's behavior, acknowledging any part you played in creating conditions for the behaviors to arise, can support repair. Trust builds slowly as new skills, ways of relating and experiences that reflect honesty, self...

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