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Transforming Anger: The Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes • 11/23/2009
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes
11/23/2009
Transforming anger is a key practice for returning to conscious presence and connection with self and others when triggered into a reaction. Join John Kinyon to learn this essential life skill through the Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral.

Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • Circa 2007
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I just started teaching in a public school and I'm not enjoying the violence that teachers express towards children and their colleagues. However, when I talk about NVC, most people listen but I feel they're either not understanding it or..."

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 24. Shine a Light on Your Shadow: Projection Detection and Reclaiming Disowned Parts

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are...

The Blame-Free State (5 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 10/23/2014
Audio
6 - 8 hours
10/23/2014
Blame can become a terrible habit – one that’s extremely costly both personally, socially and culturally. When you play The Blame Game there are usually only losers. Nobody wins, not really. Learn how to move out of blame into peace – whether it involves others, yourself or situations. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Nonviolence In The Face of Rape or Assault

Article • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/2016
Article
1 - 2 minutes
12/2016
Here's a brief anecdote showing how one woman was able transform a situation, where a man was about to assault or rape her. She responded in a creative way that lead them both to see each others' humanity -- navigating them both to safety. As part of her ingenuity he ended up spending the night in her house, in another room.

Demands vs Requests

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/2005
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy everyone. It thus opens possibilities and helps build connection.

Help for Overwhelm

Article • 3-5 minutes • 11/2019
Article
3-5 minutes
11/2019
Reducing overwhelm requires you to reconnect with your authentic choice, be present and compassionate with what's happening, heal trauma, and interrupt the trauma response. Read on for ways that may help you reconnect with your choice, presence and more on trauma.

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

Article • 9 - 14 minutes • 2/2018
Article
9 - 14 minutes
2/2018
Some people in the NVC community consider the words "privilege" and "power" triggering and/or evaluative. From this perspective, how can the concepts of "privilege" and "power" be considered part of the NVC teaching? This writing piece examines the power and privilege debate. It also discusses what the author sees as Marshall Rosenberg and Gandhi's stance on the subject...

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/2018
Article
6 - 9 minutes
12/2018
The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?). This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...

Empathizing with Someone Who is Silent

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: When someone is unresponsive it can be an opportunity to bring in more presence and connection through empathy. They may be worried that if they speak they'll say something they'll regret. Or they may want to know that their needs matters as much as yours. They may also need more space to clarify their thoughts.

Bringing Peace to Kids in Conflict (6 Session Course)

with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei
Audio • 9 -12 hours • 03/11/2011
Audio
9 -12 hours
03/11/2011
This 6-session telecourse recording focuses on supporting people who work with children (e.g. parents, teachers, ministers, etc.) in applying the skills of NVC mediation in conflict situations that involve children. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.