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Five Core Principles of Living Compassion and the Relationship of Needs to Spirituality

Five Core Principles of Living Compassion and the Relationship of Needs to Spirituality

Five Core Principles of Living Compassion and the Relationship of Needs to Spirituality

with Robert Gonzales
Audio • 8 minutes • 
Audio
8 minutes
Listen to Robert describe the five core principles of Living Compassion and the relationship of needs to spirituality. Great material for reflection and reference!
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Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (8 Session Course)

Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (8 Session Course)

Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (8 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales
Video • 6 hours • 
Video
6 hours
If you're interested in learning specifically how and what you can do to live compassionately – with plenty of hands-on practice time – this course is for you. Observe actual demonstrations of Robert guiding participants through the transformational territory of healing and integration.
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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 14. Admit to it Too

with Eric Bowers
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
It can be challenging to tell people that you don’t like a certain behaviour or action of theirs. Even with supportive intentions and compassionate language your message might be difficult for someone to receive. Of course, we are not responsible for others’ reactions, but we are responsible to care about each other, and there are effective ways to express ourselves with more care.
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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

with Eric Bowers
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain
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Control

Control

Control

with John Kinyon
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Control may help us feel safe in an unpredictable, unsafe, wild world. Wanting control may be a response to shielding ourselves from feeling fear and being aware of our vulnerability. The more we insulate from fear, discomfort, and vulnerability, the more we are cut off from aliveness; we can become more anxious, and depressed. The more we control the more we are disconnected from empathy and...
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The Spiritual Path of NVC (2 Session Course)

The Spiritual Path of NVC (2 Session Course)

The Spiritual Path of NVC (2 Session Course)

with Leo Sofer and Robert Gonzales
Audio • 2 hours, 10 minutes • 
Audio
2 hours, 10 minutes
Are you a spiritual seeker who longs for an approach that supports compassion for self as well as profound spiritual transformation? If so, you’ll enjoy this telecourse recording with Robert Gonzales and Leo Sofer as they engage in dynamic discussions about NVC as a spiritual practice.
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Grounded Responses for Challenging Comments

Grounded Responses for Challenging Comments

Grounded Responses for Challenging Comments

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Article
3 - 5 minutes
When someone responds with painful sarcasm, criticism, or dismissal you can respond with empathy, or with clarity about your intention, need and request. If you're unable to do this, later you can privately write what they said, identify the feelings and needs of both of you, then write possible responses. This can help you remember to stay with your intention and what’s true for you without...
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Understanding How Shame Hinders Clear Requests

Understanding How Shame Hinders Clear Requests

Understanding How Shame Hinders Clear Requests

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Article
3 - 5 minutes
It may be challenging to hear or make requests when you feel shame regarding anyone's feelings and needs. Without support, shame could be debilitating, so you may feel resistant and become defensive, hear threat, or criticize others. Instead, be with people who allow space for vulnerability. Find ways to celebrate, negotiate, be mindful, accepting, and creative.
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Creating an Internal Secure Base

Creating an Internal Secure Base

Creating an Internal Secure Base

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
We each hold an internal model or set of expectations about how caring and comfort could be accessed in relationship. The ability to reflect upon and challenge our own dominant model of perceptions, beliefs, and behaviors --and to experience discomfort and vulnerability-- is a key feature of "security". If not, an "attachment reactivity" arises -- where sense of insecurity, separateness, and...
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The Zero Step

The Zero Step

The Zero Step

with Jim & Jori Manske
Audio • 41 minutes • 
Audio
41 minutes
Jori and Jim Manske offer a process they call "The Zero Step," encompassing the characteristics of warmth toward self and other, care for the vitality of both yourself and other(s), wonder/interest, vulnerability and empathy, which leads directly to connection requests and an openness to outcome.
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Alarm Feelings: Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down

Alarm Feelings: Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down

Alarm Feelings: Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
Anger, guilt, shame, and shutdown are often based on reactivity and “should” thinking. They narrow and distort perceptions, which can bring more suffering. So instead, feel them without resistance, nor acting on them. Bring clarity by naming your observables and thoughts, plus your underlying vulnerable feelings, needs and self-responsibility. Then mourn what needs were, or are, unmet. Only...
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Finding Security in the Face of Fear

Finding Security in the Face of Fear

Finding Security in the Face of Fear

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 4-6 minutes • 
Article
4-6 minutes
In pandemic we can notice where we seek security. For some, financial systems that seemed to offer security have suddenly become unpredictable. For others, living without such privilege, resources are even more difficult to access. And we become more vulnerable to illness and death. These changes can trigger fear, but also motivate choices that contribute to a sense of security. Read on for...
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Healing Codependency

Healing Codependency

Healing Codependency

with Erin Merrihew
Article • 5 - 10 minutes • 
Article
5 - 10 minutes
We all fall into codependency sometimes — it’s in our wiring. And when we do, it’s a sign that we’re looking for security the only way we know how in that moment: by looking outside of ourselves. At its core, codependency is the act of leaving ourselves and looking outward to find our sense of self. So to heal codependent patterns we need focus on coming back to ourselves and engage in...
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3 Simple Steps to Set The Boundaries You Need

3 Simple Steps to Set The Boundaries You Need

3 Simple Steps to Set The Boundaries You Need

with Erin Merrihew
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Article
3 - 5 minutes
Resentment is one sign that you need a boundary. You can set a boundary by requesting the behavior that would be most meaningful to you. Include why that behavior would be meaningful to you and share vulnerably. Then notice if you are holding any blame and ask yourself, “What do I need to feel underneath my blame?” If you can take responsibility for those feelings with compassion, the other...
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