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Needs, the Third Component of Compassionate Communication

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/19/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/19/2005
Trainer Tip: In Compassionate Communication, we consider needs to be universal. That means that while we all have the same needs, such as for love, support, shelter, food, joy, caring, etc., we choose different ways to meet our needs.

The Needs Underneath a Need for “Fairness”

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I'm practicing with 'transforming the pain of unmet needs into the beauty of the need.' In identifying my unmet needs, I come up with 'fairness.' However, fairness isn't on the needs list! I'm wondering what needs might be underneath 'fairness.'"

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 7. Talk about Conflict When You’re Not in Conflict

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes
01/2016
Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those…

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes
01/2016
What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

Embracing Jackal Thoughts

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "In trainings I say our jackals are thoughts and now I've come to wonder if all thoughts are jackals...?"

The Gift of Understanding

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/10/2005
Trainer Tip: All people long for understanding. It is such an easy thing to give, yet rarely do we see its importance in creating peace of mind.

Group Feedback

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. We are experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones."

Speaking Classical Giraffe

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Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "At one point in my practice, it was brought to my attention that some people find the use of 'formal NVC' off-putting, or mechanical. Do you have any input or insight into this?"

Understanding I’m Not Responsible for Another's Feelings

with
Trainer Tip • 2-3 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2-3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I understand that I'm not responsible for someone else's feelings, but my girlfriend doesn't. Do you have ideas for how I could get her to understand this concept?"

Confidentiality Agreement

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes • 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes
2007
Ask the Trainer: "A participant in our beginners' NVC practice group asked the co-facilitators if there was a confidentiality agreement that was typically used in NVC practice groups?"

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