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An NVC “Do-Over”

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 2009
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
2009
Trainer Tip: When we respond in a way that is less than our ideal in terms of using NVC, we don't have to give up and think we are no good at NVC or that NVC doesn't work!

Demands vs Requests

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy…

Cultivating Gratitude

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
1/2020
Here's a five-step 30 day practice to cultivate gratitude, using the practice of observations, needs, feelings, presence, vitality, awareness of contribution, sharing power and interdependence.

Choosing Whom We Empathize With

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're…

Using Anger to Serve Life

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Sometimes we need to empathize with a person before he can hear our anger. Consider that all anger is an expression of an unmet need. If we focus on the need, rather than the actions, we are more likely to connect compassionately with…

The Book of Love: Bringing You Closer to Your Lover

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Circa 2007
Trainer Tip: Could you tell me something I do that meets your need for love?

Using Conflict to Reflect on Fulfilling My Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • Circa 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Circa 2005
Trainer Tip: When I have conflict in my life with someone, especially recurring conflict, I like to find out what the conflict is showing me about myself.

Change Happens

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/07/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/07/2005
Trainer Tip: The needs we focus on meeting and the strategies we use to meet those needs change over time. Mary shares about the life-serving nature of change.

Interdependence vs. Dependence/Independence

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: NVC consciousness recognizes interdependence. In this process each person is autonomous; everyone's needs matter; people have choice and responsibility for their actions; there's abundance, and a valuing of coming together. The dependence / independence paradigm assumes we either need someone else to be…

Enemy Images

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: Judging others can affect our ability to communicate effectively with that person, or enjoy the relationship. Translating the static judgments (enemy images) we have of others into our own and others' feelings and needs can help us move into greater understanding, healing, and…

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