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Past Stories, Present Feelings

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I have noticed that sometimes when I am in a story-telling mood I am usually trying to prove that I am right and once I connect with a need the urge to give all the information goes away."

The Cause of Our Feelings

Trainer Tip • 3-5 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

The Sweetest Game in Town: Contributing Without Praise

Trainer Tip • 2-3 minutes • 05/2009
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2-3 minutes
05/2009
Inbal answers a parent's question about praise and offers a perspective on how praise translates into the NVC framework.

Is NVC Always, in the End, “Just One-on-One”?

Trainer Tip • 3-5 minutes • 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes
2007
Ask the Trainer: "Can you share stories of transforming group conflict, or is NVC strictly intended for 'one-on-one' work?"

The Gift of Understanding

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/10/2005
Trainer Tip: All people long for understanding. It is such an easy thing to give, yet rarely do we see its importance in creating peace of mind.

Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • Circa 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I just started teaching in a public school and I'm not enjoying the violence that teachers express towards children and their colleagues. However, when I talk about NVC, most people listen but I feel they're either not understanding it or ..."

Self-Empathy: A Direct Route to Personal Healing

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/24/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/24/2005
Trainer Tip: It is true that we cannot fully understand other people until we understand ourselves. Gain understanding and healing through self-empathy within the Compassionate Communication process.

Different Types of Requests

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 2008
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
2008
Ask the Trainer: "Could you share a list of types of requests, with examples of each and a possible strategy for formulating requests in conversation?"

Connect Before Correct

Trainer Tip • 2-3 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2-3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "Recently, I was sitting in my weekly practice group trying to connect to my reasons for wanting to give empathy to a particular person. She was telling us about some painful feeling she was having, but was not connecting to her needs."

Use of “To Be” Verbs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: “I heard a trainer say once that the ‘to be’ verbs aren’t really needs, such as to be heard, to be understood or to be valued. Can you help me understand why not?”

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