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Setting The Intention

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/28/2022
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/28/2022
Trainer Tip: When we have no hope of a conversation working out, our attitude towards the situation can contribute to our lack of success. Instead, start conversations that might be challenging with the intention of success. This can shift the energy immediately toward it. This…

The Big Why

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/30/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/30/2022
Some questions will take you deeper and deeper to universal human needs when you toggle between them. Questions like “What do I need?”, “If I had that, then what would I have?”, and “If I had that, what would that give me?”

The Purpose Of Gratitude

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 07/13/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
07/13/2022
Gratitude keeps us connected to what is working, rather than dwelling on what is not working. As a celebration – gratitude keeps us connected to the natural joy of giving. Receiving gratitude also serves the function of feedback, and lets us know that we are…

Connecting To Your Needs in Relationships

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/07/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/07/2022
Trainer Tip: You may find yourself assessing the relationship with someone just based on how they feel. Check in with yourself: How do you feel and what needs of yours are met when you spend time with someone? Consider whether this relationship is working for…

Meeting Our Need for Rest

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/23/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
9/23/2022
Trainer Tip: We all have different ways to meet our need for rest. It's important to notice when you need that time. You might know you need rest when you find yourself snapping at people on the phone, when you snap at your cat, or…

Living Peacefully

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/23/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
9/23/2022
Trainer Tip: When we match might with might, we create discord, frustration, and separation from other people. Instead, place aside your urge to be right or to win. Approach charged situations with a sincere desire to be honest, and to value everyone’s needs including your…

Enriching Life

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/23/2022
Introductory Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/23/2022
Trainer Tip: If you are motivated by fear, guilt, blame or shame, your actions will usually be motivated by avoiding pain. The best way to experience permanent, lifelong change is to focus on how your life will improve when you make a change. Notice when…

Enjoying Your Life

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/23/2022
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/23/2022
Trainer Tip: The surest way to enjoy life is to do things that meet your needs. If you don’t enjoy a particular activity, consider the need you hope to meet by doing it. For instance, for each item you want to do consider the needs…

Enjoying The Process

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/23/2022
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/23/2022
Trainer Tip: Notice where you're judging or blaming people for not meeting your needs. Strive instead to notice and name the related feelings and needs longing to be met. Ask a question to check with the other person about what they want and need. This…

Protective Vs. Punitive Use Of Force

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/23/2022
Introductory Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/23/2022
Trainer Tip: Punitive use of force stems from a belief that people behave in certain ways because they're bad, and that they need to be punished to mend their ways. One way to punish is to judge them. In contrast, protective use of force stems…

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