Trainer Tips (313)
Connecting With Your Husband
with Godfrey Spencer
Trainer Tip • 7 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
7 minutes
Circa 2007
Trainer Tip
7 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: My question is about wanting to empathize more with my husband. Sometimes we connect very deeply, other times he slips back into "jackal talk..."
The Difference Between Needs and Requests
with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/30/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/30/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/30/2005
Trainer Tip: Knowing the difference between what we need and what we want someone else to do about that need can have a profound impact on our relationships and our happiness.
Persisting vs. Demanding
with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/21/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
12/21/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
12/21/2005
Trainer Tip: Persisting without demanding is the art of what Marshall Rosenberg fondly called "Dogging for our needs." We can learn to not give up on our needs and at the same time, refrain from demanding they be met.
Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!
with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed how often we back up when we find ourselves in a conflict? Or how much we try to pull away when someone is angry or in emotional pain?
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body
with Eric Bowers
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
In our fast-paced, busy lives it is tempting to practice NVC mostly with the left hemisphere of the brain, thinking through the steps quickly without slowing down to connect more deeply with feelings and needs. Don't miss an opportunity to integrate the hemispheres of the…
Use of “To Be” Verbs
with John Kinyon
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Circa 2007
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: “I heard a trainer say once that the ‘to be’ verbs aren’t really needs, such as to be heard, to be understood or to be valued. Can you help me understand why not?”
Bringing the Topic of a Conversation Back to Your Needs
Bringing the Topic of a Conversation Back to Your Needs
Bringing the Topic of a Conversation Back to Your Needs
with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 07/16/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
07/16/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
07/16/2005
Trainer Tip: Sometimes the best way to get our need me is to first connect with the needs of another.
Acknowledging Our Inner Critic
with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Our inner critic judges ourselves and other people; and it is the most likely to get scared when we begin to make a change. It holds wisdom for us if we are willing to listen. When we acknowledge our inner critic and empathize…
Being Honest About Our Anger
with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 08/29/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
08/29/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
08/29/2005
Trainer Tip: Mary shares how staying present to our anger and finding the underlying feelings and needs can lead to deeper connection and more satisfying outcomes.
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No
with Eric Bowers
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a…