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The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I have the understanding that the unconscious is vast compared to conscious mind. When I state 'needs' how well can I depend on there being something beneath my awareness that is actually the motivation?"

Punishment, Needs and the Protective Use of Force

Trainer Tip • 8 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
8 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: For many years I have been using crime and punishment (reward and consequences) to discipline because it was the only thing I knew. I knew deep in my heart it was alienating me...

Finding Our True Self

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 06/24/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
06/24/2005
Trainer Tip: Accepting our true feelings, needs and values can lead us to a more compassionate life. Are you being true to yourself?

Empathizing with Someone Who is Silent

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: When someone is unresponsive it can be an opportunity to bring in more presence and connection through empathy. They may be worried that if they speak they'll say something they'll regret. Or they may want to know that their needs matters as much…

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 2. Cultivate Connection before Asking for Action

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Learn when to use the two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection.

Idiomatic vs. Formal Compassionate Communication

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 03/16/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
03/16/2005
Trainer Tip: When do we move from using the formal 4-step process of NVC to a more idiomatic, natural-sounding expression? Whenever we're ready!

Mourning Our Disappointments

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/01/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/01/2005
Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Who does not want to be understood? In Tip #6, Eric shows you how to deepen connection and trust by checking your understanding with the person you are conversing with.

Getting Our Need for Love Met

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me”…

Connecting Feelings and Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/02/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/02/2005
Trainer Tip: When we connect our feelings to our needs, we put ourselves in a postion to get our needs met and mourn when they aren't met. Here's a practical tip you can practice daily to improve the quality of your life.

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