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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Who does not want to be understood? In Tip #6, Eric shows you how to deepen connection and trust by checking your understanding with the person you are conversing with.

Connecting Feelings and Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/02/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/02/2005
Trainer Tip: When we connect our feelings to our needs, we put ourselves in a postion to get our needs met and mourn when they aren't met. Here's a practical tip you can practice daily to improve the quality of your life.

No Sacrifices, Please

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/15/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/15/2005
Trainer Tip: Mary explains why success isn't dependent upon another person's pain, by reaching for consensus instead of self-sacrifice.

Demands vs Requests

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy…

The Power of Being Heard

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: To defuse anger and create space for resolution, hear the other person’s feelings and needs. If this practice is new to you, you're like to experience fear and resistance in trying it out. However, you'll be more likely to experience a powerful shift,…

Defusing Anger

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/25/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/25/2005
Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully…

Protective Use of Force

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 07/19/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
07/19/2005
Trainer Tip: Mary explains the NVC principle known as the "protective use of force."

Clarifying Our Requests to Meet Our Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 08/16/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
08/16/2005
Trainer Tip: Clarifying our requests can make the difference between frustration and satisfaction, Mary shows you how.

Taking Responsibility for Your Choices

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 06/21/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
06/21/2005
Trainer Tip: Giving up on blame and taking responsibilty for our choices is immensely empowering. Mary offers a tip for growing in this direction.

Getting Past Our Judgments

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 07/25/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
07/25/2005
Trainer Tip: Using NVC as a tool to transform our judgments can revolutionize our perceptions and relationships.

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