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How do you repair a relationship when you've already said things you regret, and want to reconnect with explaining or defending yourself? Listen as Miki Kashtan offers two valauble tips.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 minutes
  • Production Date 1/11/2022
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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

When you don't have a sense of being heard you can apply skills to help you can interrupt cycles of reactivity and resentment, and create connection. Let's look at six ways that will support you in being heard. These are clarity about the topic and needs; supportive conditions; respect for autonomy; sharing your intention; attending to emotional security; and making clear requests.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 6 - 9 minutes
  • Production Date 12/30/2021
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

When someone's behavior costs us, we may attempt to negotiate as much as possible. After some rounds of this, if there's no change we may reach a tolerance limit. So we may set a boundary for self care and clarity about what's unworkable. But depending on intentions and the way its said, this may or may not be a punishment to get even. Here, clarity about intentions, feelings, needs, actions and dialogue may support us.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 12/30/2021
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Trainer Tip: Sometimes the people in our lives don’t yet have the skills to speak directly about what they want. When this happens we can make guesses about how they feel and what they want. This can lead to greater connection and chances we all can be more satisfied with our interactions.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Trainer Tip: We have a better chance of getting our needs met if we prioritize connecting with one another's needs more than being right. This way we can reduce the chances of conflict arising. We also increase the possibility we can find ways everyone’s needs can be met.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Use these reflection questions and exercise to practice moving from a place of scarcity to empowerment and conscious choice regarding money and time. The exercise will ask you to identify your thoughts, feelings, and needs. And it will ask you to identify both what to mourn and what next actions you want to take. It includes a feelings and needs sheet.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Francois Beausoleil and Jeff Brown
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Fully connecting to the deeper need under the anger can transform and release the anger, without requiring the other person to do anything differently. From there, you can reach an understanding of the other person's experience, feelings and needs underlying the actions that stimulated your anger to re-establish connection with your own and the other person's humanity.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 2 -3 minutes
  • Production Date 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Kathy Simon and BayNVC
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Here are 10 tips for empathy buddy practice. It includes a handout identifying 15 non-empathy responses to step aside from when you practice.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Eric Bowers
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Listen to Jared and Kathleen explore the paradigms of interdependence and separateness through the continuum of mourning to blaming.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 10 minutes
  • Production Date 1/1/2022

Receiving anger from another can be a reactive trigger for many of us. In this brief segment, Arnina provides us a strategy for staying in the conversation instead of physically leaving.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 minutes
  • Production Date 12/12/21
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Arnina Kashtan
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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