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Honor Your Need to be Heard

Article • 2-3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2-3 minutes
When you want to be heard, first check if your listener is available. This honors yourself, and the other person’s choice about listening. You need to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand.

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Audio • 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
8 minutes
Lorraine Aguilar perceives NVC-based listening to be an essential skill to cultivate for success in the business world. A key exercise for building your listening muscle is to work with your judgments of others by translating those judgments from “What’s wrong with them?” to “What's important to me?”

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

with Dian Killian PhD and Martha Lasley
Audio • 51 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
51 minutes
Listen to this newly remastered audio with seasoned Life Coach and CNVC Certified Trainers Martha Lasley and Dian Killian, to explore how you can "be the change" in your life, to live fully in integrity with your values in your work, community, faith and social action groups. The introductory session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy:

Responding to Anger

Article • 5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-8 minutes
When someone wants to speak angrily about another, do you want to move away, try to calm them, argue, set a boundary, or offer empathy? What supports you to stay self connected? You can set boundaries regarding listening so that you're less likely to defend the other party, or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite...

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Article • 4 - 6 minutes
Applied NVC
Article
4 - 6 minutes
If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your...

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Article • 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
"All humans share the same needs" -- tragically, this idea can hide the reality that some people with less power in society have needs that go unmet to a greater extent, much longer, and with more dire consequences. Often, when the marginalized bring up experiences related to their membership in a certain group, their pain isn't acknowledged, and focus shifts to the listener's discomfort. The...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 9. Make Poetry Out of Empathy

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Nonviolent Communication includes a practice of empathy that involves listening for feelings and needs no matter how someone expresses themselves, and reflecting back the feelings and needs when it is helpful to do so. You can reflect back in a traditional NVC manner, or in a more creative way, with metaphors.

How to Ask for Responsiveness

Article • 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes
If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more you can do this, the more it can create supportive relationships in your life. Read on for ways to ask for a particular kind of responsiveness to meet...

Groups Tip Series: How Can I Support More Collaboration?

Trainer Tip • 4 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 minutes
It seems to me that people see ideas which are different from theirs as threatening. Instead of listening, the group polarizes around the different ideas and a lot of judgments develop, conflicts develop and people feel hurt. Forward progress becomes a battle ground. How can I support more collaboration?

The Compass - Awakening to the Journey from You to Yourself

Audio • 1 hour, 21 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 21 minutes
Enjoy listening in as Arnina assists participants in fine tuning what they wish for their futures, and what practices they intend to embrace as the course winds down. She also offers strategies for what they can do if they forget their intended practice, and revisits the importance of untangling Needs from Core Belief.

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.

Get Started with Nonviolent Communication

Interactive • 30 days
Introductory Skill Level
Interactive
30 days
Start here to discover how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) will enrich and deepen all your relationships. You'll love this practical and enlightening approach to empathic listening and effective self-expression. Learn on your schedule with self-paced learning modules in this 30-day program. Our 30-day NVC introductory course is conveniently available within the Library to all NVC Library...

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Audio • 14 - 18 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
14 - 18 hours
Are you eager to translate your vision of a world where everyone’s needs matter into a tangible reality? Do you long to discover your unique role in responding to the challenges of our times? If, so join Miki for 12 sessions that will propel you on your way! The first session of this course is free for all to enjoy. nvctraining.com

Courage

Article • 4 - 6 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes
In listening to what our emotions tell us, and embracing what we do not know, we begin the path of courage. Even though our culture tells us not to, revealing our imperfections is where we can deeply connect. Living our lives more courageously honest, can shift us towards inspiring one another. Read on for how some people experienced this in coming together to transform one woman's heroine...

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes
Listen as Miki works with participants. Topics: how small requests serve interdependence; NVC process vs purpose; how to respond when empathy is used to create distance; coping with verbal aggression, and more! Check it Out.

NVC at Work: Transforming Organizations with Nonviolent Communication (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
Listen and learn how to: Talk about NVC in a way that has meaning and relevance for companies and organizations, showing a clear ROI (return on investment). Draw on different applications of NVC for the workplace: addressing change in management, management issues / styles, morale / teamwork, employee retention, etc. Create a value-based training proposal (with different service and product...

Integrating NVC (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6.5 - 9 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6.5 - 9 hours
Does NVC seem like a good idea, but not practical? Do you feel frustrated when you find yourself in the same jackal scenario repeatedly? Let beloved trainer Kathleen Macferran guide you toward integrating NVC into all aspects of your life. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Audio • 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 minutes
Listen to Miki discuss two strategies for bringing NVC into the workplace in ways most likely to be well received. First Miki explains why it's best to focus more on needs than feelings in business environments. Second, she talks about unpacking needs into phrases as a way of enhancing workplace connection.