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Honor Your Need to be Heard

Article • 2-3 minutes • 04/2019
Article
2-3 minutes
04/2019
When you want to be heard, first check if your listener is available. This honors yourself, and the other person’s choice about listening. You need to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand.

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Audio • 8 minutes • 08/08/2015
Audio
8 minutes
08/08/2015
Lorraine Aguilar perceives NVC-based listening to be an essential skill to cultivate for success in the business world. A key exercise for building your listening muscle is to work with your judgments of others by translating those judgments from “What’s wrong with them?” to “What's important to me?”

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

with Dian Killian PhD and Martha Lasley
Audio • 51 minutes • 12/2008
Audio
51 minutes
12/2008
Listen to this newly remastered audio with seasoned Life Coach and CNVC Certified Trainers Martha Lasley and Dian Killian, to explore how you can "be the change" in your life, to live fully in integrity with your values in your work, community, faith and social action groups. The introductory session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy:

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2020
Article
4 - 6 minutes
01/2020
If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your...

Responding to Anger

Article • 5-8 minutes • 05/2018
Article
5-8 minutes
05/2018
When someone wants to speak angrily about another, do you want to move away, try to calm them, argue, set a boundary, or offer empathy? What supports you to stay self connected? You can set boundaries regarding listening so that you're less likely to defend the other party, or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite...

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 12/2019
Article
4 - 6 minutes
12/2019
"All humans share the same needs" -- tragically, this idea can hide the reality that some people with less power in society have needs that go unmet to a greater extent, much longer, and with more dire consequences. Often, when the marginalized bring up experiences related to their membership in a certain group, their pain isn't acknowledged, and focus shifts to the listener's discomfort. The...

How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 02/24/2021
Article
4 - 6 minutes
02/24/2021
While someone is upset or hurt they may "listen" to us to gather evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask...

The Compass - Awakening to the Journey from You to Yourself

Audio • 1 hour, 21 minutes • 04/03/2016
Audio
1 hour, 21 minutes
04/03/2016
Enjoy listening in as Arnina assists participants in fine tuning what they wish for their futures, and what practices they intend to embrace as the course winds down. She also offers strategies for what they can do if they forget their intended practice, and revisits the importance of untangling Needs from Core Belief.

How to Ask for Responsiveness

Article • 3-5 minutes • 10/2019
Article
3-5 minutes
10/2019
If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more you can do this, the more it can create supportive relationships in your life. Read on for ways to ask for a particular kind of responsiveness to meet...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 9. Make Poetry Out of Empathy

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 01/2016
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
01/2016
Nonviolent Communication includes a practice of empathy that involves listening for feelings and needs no matter how someone expresses themselves, and reflecting back the feelings and needs when it is helpful to do so. You can reflect back in a traditional NVC manner, or in a more creative way, with metaphors.

Expressing Ourselves Honestly

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.

Get Started with Nonviolent Communication

Interactive • 30 days • 1/2019
Interactive
30 days
1/2019
Start here to discover how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) will enrich and deepen all your relationships. You'll love this practical and enlightening approach to empathic listening and effective self-expression. Learn on your schedule with self-paced learning modules in this 30-day program. Our 30-day NVC introductory course is conveniently available within the Library to all NVC Library...

Groups Tip Series: How Can I Support More Collaboration?

Trainer Tip • 4 minutes • 07/07/2014
Trainer Tip
4 minutes
07/07/2014
It seems to me that people see ideas which are different from theirs as threatening. Instead of listening, the group polarizes around the different ideas and a lot of judgments develop, conflicts develop and people feel hurt. Forward progress becomes a battle ground. How can I support more collaboration?

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Audio • 14 - 18 hours • 01/16/2011
Audio
14 - 18 hours
01/16/2011
Are you eager to translate your vision of a world where everyone’s needs matter into a tangible reality? Do you long to discover your unique role in responding to the challenges of our times? If, so join Miki for 12 sessions that will propel you on your way! The first session of this course is free for all to enjoy. nvctraining.com

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes • 02/17/2017
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes
02/17/2017
Listen as Miki works with participants. Topics: how small requests serve interdependence; NVC process vs purpose; how to respond when empathy is used to create distance; coping with verbal aggression, and more! Check it Out.

Courage

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2017
Article
4 - 6 minutes
07/2017
In listening to what our emotions tell us, and embracing what we do not know, we begin the path of courage. Even though our culture tells us not to, revealing our imperfections is where we can deeply connect. Living our lives more courageously honest, can shift us towards inspiring one another. Read on for how some people experienced this in coming together to transform one woman's heroine...

NVC at Work: Transforming Organizations with Nonviolent Communication (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 09/14/2016
Audio
6 - 8 hours
09/14/2016
Listen and learn how to: Talk about NVC in a way that has meaning and relevance for companies and organizations, showing a clear ROI (return on investment). Draw on different applications of NVC for the workplace: addressing change in management, management issues / styles, morale / teamwork, employee retention, etc. Create a value-based training proposal (with different service and product...

The Timing of Making A Request

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/29/2021
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/29/2021
It's important to make requests specific and doable. Also, without a swift request immediately after we state our observation, feeling, and need in regard to the situation, the other person is left guessing what we want. Instead, a swift request can bring clarity and lessen the potential for the listener to become defensive or argue.