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Exercises For Transforming Rebellion

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes

In these exercises, you'll transform your urge to rebel with punishment or reward. Punishing can include withholding love or other necessities, attacking verbally with insults or name calling (directly or with others), giving a "dirty look," or attacking physically. With these exercises you'll allow space for your urge. You'll also explore needs, benefits, consequences, and lternatives.


Practices For Requesting

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes

Practice making requests for feedback, clarity, and action. Opportunities for making requests might be when you expected something different from what you got, were treated undesirably, and noticed inner constriction or reactivity. Identify observations, feelings, and values to support finding the request. Ensure your request states what you want, is specific, names the present-tense action, and that you're open to feedback.


Naturalizing NVC Language: Approaching a Difficult Conversation

Video • 3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
3 minutes

How do you repair a relationship when you've already said things you regret, and want to reconnect with explaining or defending yourself? Listen as Miki Kashtan offers two valauble tips.


Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes

Use this exercise to identify what state you're in at any moment, and as an exercise to grow capacity for self-awareness and self-compassion. Identify what happened, thoughts, sensations, feelings, longings, etc. Includes a table that outlines three states of being: Protective/Defensive, Vulnerability, Essence.


Miki Kashtan And Inbal Kashtan’s Additional NVC Key Differentiations

Article • 10 - 15 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
10 - 15 minutes

Here are 14 more key differentiations that are not, at time of publishing this, on the CNVC key differentiations list. They can be used to support people who are on the path of learning and integrating NVC in making sense of their own understanding of their journey and where they are within it. And it can be used to support people who share NVC with others in offering brief information in support of understanding and learning.


Six Ways That Support You Being Heard

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes

When you don't have a sense of being heard you can apply skills to help you can interrupt cycles of reactivity and resentment, and create connection. Let's look at six ways that will support you in being heard. These are clarity about the topic and needs; supportive conditions; respect for autonomy; sharing your intention; attending to emotional security; and making clear requests.


Understanding The Difference Between Life-Serving Boundaries And Threats

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

When someone's behavior costs us, we may attempt to negotiate as much as possible. After some rounds of this, if there's no change we may reach a tolerance limit. So we may set a boundary for self care and clarity about what's unworkable. But depending on intentions and the way its said, this may or may not be a punishment to get even. Here, clarity about intentions, feelings, needs, actions and dialogue may support us.


As Things Get Worse

Article • 20 - 30 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
20 - 30 minutes

As we head towards impending collapse the relative ease, comfort and freedom of the global north will be harder to maintain. Because of growing anxiety including from people with systemic power, we can anticipate increasing attempts at authoritarian control over the population. We can see what's occurring now as dry run practice for what's coming soon. What may help us: finding choice, knowing when to choose death, and walking towards community and life.


Reactions To Conflict Exercises

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes

With these exercises you can practice identifying the reactions to conflict, such as fight, flight, freeze, the posture taken, what you see, hear, smell, touch taste and what needs are at play. They will also bring in curiosity about what next step may help. One of these exercises prompts you to journal some of these things this week.


Exercise For Saying "No" And Staying Connected

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes

Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what you want to say "yes" to (regarding your needs and theirs) by saying "no"; what prevents you from saying "yes"; plus your request and how you might express it.


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