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The Paradigms of Interdependence and Separateness

Video • 7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
7 minutes

Listen to Jared and Kathleen explore the paradigms of interdependence and separateness through the continuum of mourning to blaming.


Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out

Audio • 45 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
45 minutes

 Experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs. Heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving.


I Want to Leave When Facing Anger

Video • 4 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
4 minutes

Receiving anger from another can be a reactive trigger for many of us. In this brief segment, Arnina provides us a strategy for staying in the conversation instead of physically leaving.


Dealing With Disappointment

Article • 3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

Disappointment emerges when there is a gap between what we want, expect or hope for, and what is happening. When this occurs it can be tempting to make someone or the situation wrong. Instead, rather than pushing against the flow of life we can rejoin it, non-judgmentally notice our observations and feelings. Plus we can nurture acceptance and mourning. We can also remember that what's happening isn't permanent.


The Value of Change

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Wanting collaboration? Show you value the other person's needs as much as your own. After you both feel heard, you can make joint decisions about specifics of the agreement, such as "division of work", "scope of project", "when the action will take place", "how it'll be done" and "timing of follow up to see how things went". Read on for an example of how this is applied to asking someone to pitch in with doing chores.


Compassionate Connection: Nonviolent Communication with Children

Article • 12 - 18 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes

Every interaction with children contains messages about who they are, who we are, and what life is like. By engaging attachment parenting and NVC we give them rare gifts in society: to know their parents well, to discover the effects of their actions without being blamed for them, and to experience the power of contributing to meeting others' needs, and the power to move towards mutually satisfying outcomes.


Keys To Building Trust After Broken Agreements

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes

Building trust involves each person taking responsibility for what they want by identifying their needs, and making specific and doable requests that open a negotiation. Identify in what contexts you already have trust, what you want to be able to trust, and how you may be blocking or cultivating that trust. Making requests for specific actions of what to do differently can also help.


Wishing For More Maturity & Skill In Others

Practice Exercise • 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3-5 minutes

In some situations you might expect people to show a degree of maturity or skill. When they don't, your anger-fueled response doesn't lead to lasting improved relationship change. Instead, find someone who retains focus on your feelings and needs rather than colluding with you about what should(n't) be. This can support greater acceptance, grief, vulnerability, groundedness and discernment, from which next steps can arise.


What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC

Learning Tool • 2-3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Learning Tool
2-3 minutes

Here's a table outlining eight ideas people have regarding what NVC "is". It provides columns for the principle, related needs and strategies of the NVC approach. You can add to the table your own ideas for NVC approaches. Included are five sets of reflection questions to explore what speaks to you, what would expand your range of options, what brings up discomfort, and more.


When Hearing A “No”: Demanding Versus Persisting

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer Tip: When they say "no", acknowledge what people are saying "yes" to. From there, you persist towards a resolution that values both party's needs, without demand. Persisting is when we try to meet needs by continuing to connect with another. Demanding is when we insist someone do something, or else face negative repercussions. Showing care and willingness to work with people can help them to want to collaborate and resolve conflict.


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