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Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how the other person’s words, no matter how they sound to us, are an expression of their needs. We can then be more present and available to navigate the situation.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 12 - 18 minutes
  • Date Added 02/2013
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  • Payee NGL
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Notice when you start to defend. Is your body tensing up? Feeling desperate for the other to understand you or your intentions? Find yourself explaining your behavior, giving all the good reasons why you did what you did? Trying to convince the other of your good intentions? If so, ask yourself: “Is this what I want to be doing right now? Is this really helping?” then practice one of these eight options.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5 - 8 minutes
  • Date Added 09/14/2022
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises