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Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 8 - 12 minutes
  • Date Added 01/2018
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  • Payee Rachelle Lamb
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. If you're happier when you are not in an intimate relationship you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn core skills and behaviors that support differentiation.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Date Added 1/2019
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

No one likes demands. Do you want to have access to choice when requests or demands come your way? Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she provides tools to free yourself from the submit/rebel dynamic.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 hour, 8 minutes
  • Date Added 03/11/2009
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Payee Arnina Kashtan
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio

Healthy differentiation is key to personal growth, learning and thriving relationships. When healthy differentiation is present, you can discern what's true for you and what you are and aren't responsible for in an interaction, and can be fully who you are in the presence of others. There are a number of ways you can become aware of and cultivate healthy differentiation. Let’s look at two here: self-connection and autonomy.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 6 - 9 minutes
  • Date Added 09/02/2022
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises

Part of making your relationship a priority while maintaining autonomy means you consider the impact your actions may have on your relationship and look to negotiate ways all needs can be honored. To do this while not losing yourself, practice writing down your needs and guessing their needs beforehand. Make an upfront request to create a shared understanding about what’s most important, before discussing strategies or decisions.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Date Added 1/18/2023
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises

Trainer tip: NVC consciousness recognizes interdependence. In this process each person is autonomous; everyone's needs matter; people have choice and responsibility for their actions; there's abundance, and a valuing of coming together. The dependence / independence paradigm assumes we either need someone else to be whole -- or we don’t need others at all. Commit to living autonomously. Notice where you struggle with this.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 10/2005
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips