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Beyond “Yes, And:” Acknowledging the “Oops” and “Ouches”

Article •  3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

How can we respond when we’re horrified by what someone says? How can we deepen our connection to our humanness and authenticity when the impact is hurtful? Read on to see examples of the three steps of "calling out", "calling in", and "calling forth".


Calling Out / Calling In

Article •  12 - 18 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes

When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much attention and compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over caring for people who bear the invisible brunt of such norms.