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Making Requests for Respect

Article •  3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

When asking for respect it helps to first get clear about your interpretations of other's behavior. You can do this by asking about the other's intentions before believing your thoughts. You can also make a clear request for what specifically you want to see happen instead. Read on for more.


How To Distinguish True Caring From Being Charmed

Article •  4-6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4-6 minutes

The attention you enjoy may not be motivated by true caring for you. There are three key questions that can help you discern whether you are receiving care or charm: How does caring show up under duress? How are differences treated? How consistent is the ability to consider the impact of their behavior on others? Be mindful of your judgments and notice any patterns.


Miki Kashtan And Inbal Kashtan’s Additional NVC Key Differentiations

Article •  10 - 15 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
10 - 15 minutes

Here are 14 more key differentiations that are not, at time of publishing this, on the CNVC key differentiations list. They can be used to support people who are on the path of learning and integrating NVC in making sense of their own understanding of their journey and where they are within it. And it can be used to support people who share NVC with others in offering brief information in support of understanding and learning.


Expanding The Circle Of Care

Article •  5 - 7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes

Who are you not use to caring about? Is it those you classify as "other"? Those you disagree with? The lower class? People in power? Those who inflict harm? Yourself? To include everyone's needs fully, not instead of your needs, can transform the either/or paradigm. It can also help us to go beyond so-called "codependency". And it can support us all to live more sustainably on this planet.


Moving Towards Life-Serving Responsibility in NVC

Article •  11 - 26 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 - 26 minutes

In the "obnoxious stage" we care for our needs in a way that doesn't respect others' needs. In the "emotional liberation" stage we fully care for others' needs as much as our own—while being free of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation. Often NVC training teaches us how to achieve the latter stage without the former. For greater compassion we can be more rigorous in how we talk about “responsibility", impacts and interdependence.


The Circle Of Care, The Circle Of Trust, And Nonviolence

Article •  4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

Part of nonviolence is having an infinite circle of care that includes simultaneous care of ourselves, others and groups: no one is beyond the pale. Plus, it's about having an infinite trust in the possibility that we can reach someone's heart even if we don't now know how -- since regardless of what this other person has done, they have the same needs. Without this kind of trust, nonviolence would crumble as way to create change.


Naturalizing NVC Language Series: I Don't Know Whether to Express Myself or Offer Empathy

Video •  5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
5 minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan discusses how focusing on connection and care can guide us in expressing honestly and offering empathy.