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There are many layers of consciousness, knowledge, and skill that contribute to a successful negotiation. A successful negotiation is one where honor and connection lead to a way forward, and leads to a plan of action that considers and meets everyone's needs in that situation. Read on for three fundamental principles that help with successful needs-based negotiation.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5-7 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2020
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Reacting is deciding what to do based on what someone else does. Responding is deciding what to do based on your own needs and values. When someone isn't responding the way you want, and you want to respond in a way that embodies your values, with warmth and patience, examine your reactions. Ask yourself how you can access compassion and action that contributes to the well-being of all.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 6-9 minutes
  • Production Date 02/2020
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When we're judging we're less able to access both what we care about and constructive next actions. Instead, create more internal space and agency starting with connecting to your feelings and needs; then feel your grief or disappointment; followed by getting curious about the other party's needs and context -- and then based on collective needs and the long term effects make requests or take aligned action that works for all.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 6-9 minutes
  • Production Date 07/2020
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Society gives us short-sighted explanations about human nature, life and what’s (un)changeable. The coronavirus pandemic is disrupting that explanation. Our current social order upholds impoverishment, police brutality, and is leading us towards our extinction. Change begins with people mobilizing resources towards a vision that holds systemic care for all, plus engages shared risk and collective action towards that vision.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 23 - 34 minutes
  • Production Date 07/2020
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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 7
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 12 - 18 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2013
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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action to effect systemic change. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 6 - 9 minutes
  • Production Date 04/2013
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  • Payee Sarah Peyton
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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In order to bring in more nonviolence into the world, we need to take our own needs seriously and recognize that no amount of seeing someone’s innocence would mean putting up with more of their harmful behavior. We need to disentangle compassion towards another from the willingness to tolerate more harmful actions. At times this means finding enough self-love, support, or clarity, to take decisive action. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Levels
  • Duration 8 - 12 minutes
  • Production Date 03/2012
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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors, typical signs of escalation, and more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 8-12 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2019
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Most reactivity in intimate relationships comes from a lack of confidence in maintaining intimacy, autonomy, or security. What may help is naming what's happening, interrupting shame, and anchoring or reassuring yourself. You can also reflect on the effects of acting from reactivity. Knowing what helps center you, ask your partner to do or say specific things that might help. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 2/2019
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 6/2018
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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