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When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of active interdependence.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 11 - 16 minutes
  • Production Date 2/2013
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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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To help you stay connected to yourself and the other person when in challenging discussions about COVID-19 vaccines or other hot issues, without labeling others as reactive or otherwise, you can begin by tracking signs of your own reactivity to bring mindfulness onboard, then shifting your attention to universal needs; and asking to connect about it later. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 8 - 12 minutes
  • Production Date 8/2021
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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While someone is upset or hurt they may "listen" to us to gather evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask direct, honest questions.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 02/24/2021
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee Oren Jay Sofer
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When someone doesn't want to talk some options include releasing your attachment to the strategy you want, asking about and affirming with empathy their reasons for not talking, looking for what support could be helpful to shift to more openness, letting go, and grieving. Read on for more on this, including possible reasons for why they might not want to engage on it.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5 - 7 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2019
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Transform arguments with these steps: take responsibility for your mind, increase your capacity for discomfort, slow down, show up and remember your values, offer understanding, take risks, and speak from your heart. Learning new skills takes time, energy and effort. However, it’s entirely possible to radically shift the way we communicate. The key is patience, persistence, and taking it one step at a time.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 9-13 minutes
  • Production Date 9/2/2021
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee Oren Jay Sofer
  • Points 5
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Trust, flow, information sharing, and learning is reduced in conflict. Conflict can indicate incapacity in at least one of five systems that every group, community, or organization needs to function. Attending to conflict at systems-level helps reduce over relying on momentary connection that isn’t anchored in decisions about what comes next. When there's enough agreed upon systems within capacity, that attend to enough kinds of situations, we're likely to have little conflict.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 22 - 33 minutes
  • Production Date 9/24/2021
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 10
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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However indirectly expressed, any judgement or criticism is about the person's own thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests.This awareness can help you take people's comments less personally, and give you options: silent self-empathy, standing in your truth, contact and curiosity, and honest expression.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 10/09//2021
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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What parent hasn't experienced a surge of protectiveness when your child hurts their sibling? Our cultural training calls us to immediately take two roles: the judge, determining who was wrong and what the consequences will be, and the police, enforcing the consequences. These thankless jobs often result in frustration, resentment, pain, for all. Read on for an example of how empathy transformed a child's impulse to hit another child.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 11/16/2021
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  • Payee Kathy Simon
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community?

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 7 - 9 hours
  • Production Date 01/20/2015
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Payee Mediate Your Life
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Join CNVC Certified Trainer Eric Bowers in journeying through the world of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) as he expands on the theories and tools from his book Meet Me In Hard-to-Love Places: The Heart and Science of Relationship Success. You'll discover why IPNB and NVC complement each other so well, especially in the powerful practice of Somatic-Based Resonant Empathy.

 

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 6 - 8 hours
  • Production Date 12/01/2016
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Payee Eric Bowers
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio
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