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What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our perspective to bring in greater care and awareness.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration 5 - 8 minutes
- Date Added 08/2018
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- Payee Roxy Manning
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration 8 - 12 minutes
- Date Added 01/2018
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- Payee Rachelle Lamb
- Points 3
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Rachelle Lamb
- responding relationally
- interconnectedness
- web of life
- partnership
- partnership consciousness
- togetherness
- shared needs
- shared responsibility
- care for impact
- autonomy
- consideration
- silo mentality
- individualism
- closed heart
- questioning NVC
- questioning NVC culture
- NVC myth
- doing NVC vs being NVC
- dominant culture
- status quo
- relationship blocks
- care for the whole
- planetary sustainability
- interdependence
- anthropocentric
- human centered
- questioning the status quo
- Introductory Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- All Skill Levels
- selfish
- attachment
- NVC & Society
When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.
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- Skill Level All Skill Levels
- Duration 10 - 15 minutes
- Date Added 04/2018
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- Payee Rachelle Lamb
- Points 5
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Rachelle Lamb
- interdependence
- social responsibility
- individualism
- silo mentality
- criticism
- feedback
- shadow
- care for impact
- consideration
- hearing needs
- hard to hear messages
- interconnectedness
- responding relationally
- closed heart
- open heart
- questioning NVC
- responsiveness
- All Skill Levels
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- universal human needs
- attachment
- defensive
- judgment
- relationships
Awareness of how we're holding our own and others' needs is important to our development. In learning to value needs, we often go through three stages: passive, aggressive/obnoxious, and assertive/mutual. As we learn and grow, we may relate to the following differently: Whose feelings and needs are important, who is responsible for what, how our choices impact others, and consideration for ourselves and others.
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- Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
- Duration 5-8 minutes
- Date Added 9/18/2022
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- Payee Peggy Smith
- Points 4
- Multi Trainer Num 1
Trainer Tip: Notice an opportunity today to use honesty as a means to connect with someone else. Consider what type of honesty might stimulate pain in others.
Additional Info
- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 1 - 2 minutes
- Date Added 10/2005
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- Payee Mary Mackenzie
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1