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If you ask for or give empathy and are met with accusations of codependency, there are a number of things you can do to check that you are coming from a place of healthy differentiation. You can see if you're doing so from a place of healthy differentiation -- and notice signs of healthy differentiation when you offer empathy. You can also bring a profound respect for differences, and clear boundaries. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 4- 6 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2020
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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What's the real reason you choose to talk about something or not? "Privacy" can become a misplaced label that's used to hide harmful behaviour. Secrets typically come from reactivity -- and can carry shame, fear or threat of harm, and take a toll. And yet, if something private gets mislabeled as a "secret" it can also trigger shame and fear. The key to all this may be in relating to privacy from a place of clear differentiation, boundaries, agency, care and discernment.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 9/2018
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 1
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Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. If you're happier when you are not in an intimate relationship you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn core skills and behaviors that support differentiation.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 1/2019
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When a relationship has both differentiation and bonding you can express differences and unmet needs, and responsibly do your own thing without it being a threat to the bond with another. You honor each others choices. There's trust rather than a sense of resentful obligation. Needs-based negotiation is easier. See if you tend to emphasize only differentiation or bonding in your relationships. Imagine how to support the opposite.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 5 -7 minutes
  • Production Date 10/29/2021
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Trainer Tip: When we love a child there's a contribution we can provide in helping them go their own way successfully, in big ways and small.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips