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Nonviolent Communication Basics

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2017
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes

Here are some very basic forms and distinctions of NVC. It covers the 4 D's, OFNR, some NVC distinctions, tips, quotes from Marshall Rosenberg, and "feelings and needs" lists, and more. As with any art, these rudiments necessarily must be learned, practiced, understood, embodied and then let go of so as not to become rote and block creativity.


Feelings vs Interpretations

Article  • 1-2 minutes • 04/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
1-2 minutes

Here's a list of words that pose as feelings, but are actually interpretations of what you think someone is doing to you. They trigger defensiveness in another thereby preventing a connected dialogue. Behind each of these words are precious feelings and needs. This sheet includes ways to distinguish feelings from interpretations.


Laughter, IPNB and Empathy

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 10/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

Sometimes even a very skilled empathy practicitioner can go into offering a non-empathic response, even when asked for empathy.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our brain and relationship with others.  This article speaks to the deeper "why" and also to one thing we could do to turn it around...


Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 1/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

Workplace relationships are complex. Each employee brings their unique self to work. Their background, perspective, emotional triggers, and working style. Add to this the dynamics of power relations, and the fact that often workplace communication now takes place at our computer keyboards rather than face-to-face. Sylvia Haskvitz offers practical tips to make today's complex workplace relationships more satisfying and effective.


Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

Articles (Public)  • N/A • 1/2010
Introductory Skill Level
Articles (Public)
N/A
Sylvia offers practical tips to make today's complex workplace relationships more satisfying and effective.

Feelings vs. Thoughts Vocabulary Builder

Practice Exercise  • 10 minutes • 09/11/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
10 minutes

This ten question exercise will help build your feelings vocabulary. It is helpful to differentiate between words that describe what we think others are doing around us, and words that describe actual feelings. These "faux feelings" often reveal more about how we think others are behaving than what we are actually feeling ourselves. Feeling words are always about us, not the other person.


Observing: Practicing the distinction between "observation" and "observation mixed with evaluation"

Practice Exercise  • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes

Recalling Krishnamurti, Marshall referred to the capability of distinguishing observation vs observation mixed with evaluation as "the highest form of human intelligence." Read on for an exercise to help practice the skill of observation in combination with mindful walking.


Observing without Judgment

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.


Moralistic Judgments

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: When we express moralistic judgments we are implying that other people are wrong or bad because they don’t act in ways that are in harmony with our values. Judging the situation or people can create distance and hurt. Instead, we can express our needs and how we're affected, bringing greater connection and healing. Today, notice how often you judge, and how you feel when you judge.


Losing Our Judgments

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: Various life circumstances that can seem to be something that we don't want, and we may think of them as bad. And then later the situation may reveal that it's a circumstance that we do want, and we may think of it as good. Instead, of evaluating our day as good or bad we can acknowledge the feelings and needs that are present. Read on for a few anecdotes that illustrate this.


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