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How To Understand Control

Practice Exercise •  2 - 3 minutes • 
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes

When someone behaves in a way that you may label convincing, cajoling, guilt-tripping, threatening, analyzing, or criticizing, you may be tempted to guess they have a "need" for control. Instead, name what this person is doing that isn't meeting your needs. If it is a true need your heart will have softened. If you feel resentment or resistance, you are likely making a judgment rather than guessing what they are needing.