Library Resources with ineffective NVC
Sometimes even a very skilled empathy practicitioner can go into offering a non-empathic response, even when asked for empathy. Why? One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our brain and relationship with others. This article speaks to the deeper "why" and also to one thing we could do to turn it around...
Additional Info
- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 3 - 5 minutes
- Date Added 10/2018
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Premium Members
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Advanced Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- self empathy
- self responsibility
- Sarah Peyton
- neuroscience
- neurobiology
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- blame
- criticism
- implicit memory
- triggers
- ineffective NVC
- reactivity
- shadow
- brain
- unconscious
- subconscious
- projection
- conflict
- evaluation
- diagnosis
- empathy
- emotional pain
When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems? This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can inadvertertly support unhealthy ways of operating, rather than become a healthy solution. It asks us to see what could be hidden -- both on the personal and societal levels.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 7 - 11 minutes
- Date Added 04/2018
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Premium Members
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- Payee Rachelle Lamb
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Advanced Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- questioning the status quo
- society
- social responsibility
- ineffective NVC
- interconnectedness
- interdependence
- status quo
- myths
- questioning NVC culture
- misconceptions
- NVC myth
- Rachelle Lamb
- cultural narrative
- societal influence
- personal & political
- depression
- meaning
- strategies
- NVC & Society
What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathize, be present, attuned, or responsive? Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected in our relationships.
Additional Info
- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 4 - 6 minutes
- Date Added 01/2018
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Premium Members
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- Payee Eric Bowers
- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Eric Bowers
- parenting
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- attachment
- Attachment Theory
- attachment parenting
- brain
- unconscious
- ineffective NVC
- triggers
- blocks to connection
- emotional safety
- self regulation
- connect before correct
- relationship building
- trauma
- family conflict
- conflict
- fight/flight/freeze
- emotional regulation
Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing others' experiences even if it challenges our personal and collective belief systems -- and especially when it upsets us to consider it.
Additional Info
- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 10 - 15 minutes
- Date Added 03/2018
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Premium Members
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- Payee Rachelle Lamb
- Points 4
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Rachelle Lamb
- empathy
- NVC myth
- misconceptions
- questioning NVC culture
- myths
- status quo
- confrontation
- interdependence
- interconnectedness
- responding relationally
- hearing needs
- care for impact
- receptivity
- ineffective NVC
- relationship blocks
- resistance
- hard to hear messages
- social responsibility
- society
- care for the whole
- receiving feedback
- questioning the status quo
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- silent empathy
- NVC & Society
Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in organizational settings...
Additional Info
- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration 12 - 18 minutes
- Date Added 1/2018
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Premium Members
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- Payee Work Collaboratively
- Points 5
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- All Skill Levels
- Introductory Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- power imbalances
- privilege
- privilege blindness
- society
- bias
- sexism
- ineffective NVC
- status quo
- individualism
- silo mentality
- relationship blocks
- shared power
- shared responsibility
- systemic change
- marginalized
- marginalized group
- minority groups
- minority
- outlier
- disenfranchised
- inclusion
- prejudice
- group dynamics
- business
- organization
- Dian Killian
- power
- self examination
- assumptions
- race
- NVC & Society
Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another. Why? One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship with others.
Additional Info
- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration 10 - 15 minutes
- Date Added 11/2017
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Premium Members
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- projection
- subconscious
- unconscious
- invalidating
- minimizing
- trivalizing
- brain
- shadow
- reactivity
- ineffective NVC
- ineffective empathy
- triggers
- implicit memory
- receptivity
- receptive
- criticism
- blame
- stress
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- nervous system
- neurobiology
- neuroscience
- Sarah Peyton
- self responsibility
- self empathy
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- demands
- defensive
Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another. Why? One reason could be that our brains maybe less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship to others...
Additional Info
- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration 3 - 5 minutes
- Date Added 10/20/2017
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Premium Members
n/a
- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Sarah Peyton
- neuroscience
- neurobiology
- nervous system
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- stress
- blame
- criticism
- receptive
- receptivity
- implicit memory
- triggers
- ineffective empathy
- ineffective NVC
- reactivity
- shadow
- brain
- self empathy
- self responsibility
- trivalizing
- minimizing
- invalidating
- unconscious
- subconscious
- projection
- demands
- defensive