Library Resources with Interpersonal Neurobiology
Sometimes we want to avoid placing our love and trust in someone, to protect our hearts and our life energies. And so there are deeper questions that we can use to check whether we're in relationship with someone who doesn't have capacity to be in relationship with us (eg. “Do I have a sense of mattering in this relationship?”). Read on for more questions we use to assess our empathy and efforts in relationships.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 4 - 6 minutes
- Date Added 11/2015
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
Living in this ceaselessly demanding world, how do we recover from emotional exhaustion? The hopelessness of not being met in the world can leave us wrung out like an old mop. Our heart rate plummets, our blood pressure and respiration drop, and energy and information processing start slogging along. Instead, we can build the bridge of empathy for greater rejuvenation.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 2 - 4 minutes
- Date Added 07/2012
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
Sometimes even a very skilled empathy practicitioner can go into offering a non-empathic response, even when asked for empathy. Why? One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our brain and relationship with others. This article speaks to the deeper "why" and also to one thing we could do to turn it around...
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 3 - 5 minutes
- Date Added 10/2018
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Advanced Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- Intermediate Skill Level
- self empathy
- self responsibility
- Sarah Peyton
- neuroscience
- neurobiology
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- blame
- criticism
- implicit memory
- triggers
- ineffective NVC
- reactivity
- shadow
- brain
- unconscious
- subconscious
- projection
- conflict
- evaluation
- diagnosis
- empathy
- emotional pain
What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathize, be present, attuned, or responsive? Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected in our relationships.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 4 - 6 minutes
- Date Added 01/2018
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- Payee Eric Bowers
- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Eric Bowers
- parenting
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- attachment
- Attachment Theory
- attachment parenting
- brain
- unconscious
- ineffective NVC
- triggers
- blocks to connection
- emotional safety
- self regulation
- connect before correct
- relationship building
- trauma
- family conflict
- conflict
- fight/flight/freeze
- emotional regulation
One way to understand trauma is it means we got a blow greater than our nervous system can tolerate – then we move into hyperarousal, and then hypoarousal or dissociation. This cycle can continue long after. Here, we're not able to fully process emotional cues, information, our body, and others. It's important we consider re-writing the cultural paradigm of separation so that our trauma doesn't get marginalized.
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- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration 9 - 14 minutes
- Date Added 02/2020
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 3
- Multi Trainer Num 1
Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another. Why? One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship with others.
Additional Info
- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration 10 - 15 minutes
- Date Added 11/2017
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- projection
- subconscious
- unconscious
- invalidating
- minimizing
- trivalizing
- brain
- shadow
- reactivity
- ineffective NVC
- ineffective empathy
- triggers
- implicit memory
- receptivity
- receptive
- criticism
- blame
- stress
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- nervous system
- neurobiology
- neuroscience
- Sarah Peyton
- self responsibility
- self empathy
- Intermediate Skill Level
- Beginner Skill Level
- Advanced Skill Level
- demands
- defensive
Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another. Why? One reason could be that our brains maybe less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship to others...
Additional Info
- Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
- Duration 3 - 5 minutes
- Date Added 10/20/2017
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Premium Members
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- Payee Sarah Peyton
- Points 2
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Sarah Peyton
- neuroscience
- neurobiology
- nervous system
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- stress
- blame
- criticism
- receptive
- receptivity
- implicit memory
- triggers
- ineffective empathy
- ineffective NVC
- reactivity
- shadow
- brain
- self empathy
- self responsibility
- trivalizing
- minimizing
- invalidating
- unconscious
- subconscious
- projection
- demands
- defensive
Join CNVC Certified Trainer Eric Bowers in journeying through the world of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) as he expands on the theories and tools from his book Meet Me In Hard-to-Love Places: The Heart and Science of Relationship Success. You'll discover why IPNB and NVC complement each other so well, especially in the powerful practice of Somatic-Based Resonant Empathy.
Additional Info
- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 6 - 8 hours
- Date Added 12/01/2016
- Premium Members Premium Members
- Payee Eric Bowers
- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
Join Eric Bowers in transforming past relationship pain, coming alive in community and creating thriving relationships. This 12 session Telecourse recording brings together Eric's passions for Nonviolent Communication, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology.
Additional Info
- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration 9 hours, 7 minutes
- Date Added 10/18/2012
- Premium Members Premium Members
- Payee Eric Bowers
- Points 1
- Multi Trainer Num 1
- Eric Bowers
- core beliefs
- empathy
- compassion
- connection
- dialogue
- relationships
- neuroscience
- vision
- fear
- responsibility
- self responsibility
- support
- neurobiology
- Attachment Theory
- Interpersonal Neurobiology
- conflict
- couples
- childhood
- healthy relationships
- Resonant Empathy
- resistance
- Beginner Skill Level
- multisession course